Awkward Moments

Friendships 12.22.2014

You'd think I know a lot about friendships so far since I am in the eigth grade. But honestly

I KNOW NOTHING.

Not nothing. That's maybe the wrong word to use but I haven't seen the world yet and I can gaurentee many of you haven't either (if not all). 

I didn't have much of a crappy day today and I sort of guessed I wouldn't. (Now let me tell you it's because of a really STUPID superstition: my palm was itching yesterday which means that I would have good luck today. On the other hand, when I'm cutting my nails and a nail drops to the floor, I have bad luck the next day. It's a stupid superstition which is not true, just drilled into my brain. And then the dead cat, long story but I'll explain it later.) But some of my friends did. Here's the story:

I'm pretty much a part of a group. (Regular middle school cliques. Nothing unusual.) But I'm friends with people outside my group too. This was my impression: it's our last year, we're graduating in less than 10 months, everyone's going to love each other. (Maybe not so much of the last part, but I mean less drama.) But I think there's never an end to our broadway shows we host at our school. If I could, I would purchase a bag of popcorn and sit to enjoy the show.

Anyway, continuing the story. Someone in a group FAR FROM mine got upset for whatever reason at someone else. (NOTE I'M BEING VERY PRECISE AND CAREFUL WITH MY WORDS. NOT DIRECTED TOWARDS ANYONE.) I don't know why. This conflict started way back but I guess I saw IT today. I'm not on anyone's side now (honestly I have my bias, though). Here's my first response to the situation:

PSYCHOTIC HELP WANTED.

That may be a little harsh but mind that I didn't pick a side (well, I didn't tell you guys). But such tension is honestly unnecessary. Especially if such drama is repeatedly occurring with the same people over and over again. I still don't judge. 

My point of this very confusing and vague story is that if it ever gets to the point where you want to break free from an individual conflict and someone is holding you down, the conflict is that person holding you down. You can't let people say things or do things that make you feel bad about yourself. The moment you feel you need to break free, you have to tell someone or confront your heavy weight. these conflicts are nothing but burdens. If something (or someone) pisses you off, I've learned (thanks to my bhaaji) that no one can stand up for you except for you. No one can understand you position in a situation more than you can. Here's my advice in simple terms:

STAND UP, SAY THE TRUTH, WATCH THE REACTION (because I love to see how my medicine works:)) AND STEP BACK

This may not be the most accurate advice but trust me

YOU WILL FEEL FREE.

You don't need to say anything else after the reaction. This is just my bit of advice and if you are stuck and you want to share your own way of tackling a problem like this, please share in the comments below. Remember, the true victor of any battle is the one that has the best and most solid strategy. And that means knowing what you're doing. 

Just remember, those AWKWARD MOMENTS can be a little less awkward if you make them so. 

*This advice goes to the victim, not the oppressor. :)