Poetries Of The Heart, From The Heart

The Essence of a Queen

I want to be a queen one day. Every girl whether knowingly or unknowingly wants to be a queen of her own world someday, with or without a king. Well, so do I. My question though is, that what does being a queen entail? Paradoxically speaking, it would entail having all the comforts in the world, the best of gossamer, the finest of cuisines, suited men protecting you, butlers ready to serve you at any given moment and more. This may be a definition of being a Queen suitably for today's materialistic thoughts.

 Albeit that may or may not be the entirety of being a Queen physically, and all of that would be great to have, but that is not at all what I want to be. To me, the word Queen has an entirely different definition. Being a Queen in the psychological and spiritual sense is what I want from life.

 Now, allow me to walk you through my version of being a Queen, and this is not just my thoughts speaking, these are the things that I’ve observed in the characteristics of the women in my life who I admire and respect.

A Queen is a woman with a powerful mind-set, a spine of steel, and an unbreakable will. Being a Queen means having the mental strength to push through come what may, and move mountains. It is having that growth mind-set engraved in every single one of your bones. It is having the guts to hustle everyday endlessly, without letting that ever present smile slip away from your face, it is about believing in yourself and your abilities with so much passion, that no-one and nothing can make you doubt yourself. It means having the ability to motivate yourself to learn every day, to grow every day and to believe that “I did not come this far, to only come this far.”

The women in my life that inspire me to be a Queen every day are all of these and so much more. They have taught me that being a Queen means remaining undeterred in the pursuit of what sets your soul on fire, what matters to you the most, and that the quintessential part of being a Queen is to get up, dress up and show up every day, even when you’re really not feeling up to it.

Belief in yourself, Being confident about what you do - - - are some of the pillars of these self-motivated women's thought process and acts.

 However, being a Queen also means having the ability to be vulnerable, for I believe that there is no strength without vulnerability, like the two sides of a coin. Each side with a different story of its own. Each story that helps reflect back on your achievements.

I believe that vulnerability gives us a propinquity to be a greater version of ourselves, without vulnerability, strength would be evanescent. Therefore, I think that a queen is someone who accepts her flaws and allows herself to be vulnerable. She has the gall to accept failure, rejection and critique in stride and strive on still to be better tomorrow than she was yesterday. Each progressing day, she promises herself a chance at growth, at self-construction, at embracing her setbacks, vowing to come back even more resilient and improved the following day.

A true Queen is an unapologetically ambitious woman, who knows that being ambitious is not a crime. She knows her self-worth and works towards achieving all her holistic goals, be it health wise, career-wise, academically, or spiritually. A Queen allows herself to want things and is willing to work for them because she knows that we only have one life, so, why not make it a happy one? She knows that she cannot please everyone, and that’s okay, but killing your own happiness to please others . . . not okay, because when your dezires and intensions are good then your nears and dears shall always be happy with what your do.

Being a Queen means being so in connect with your true authentic self that you don’t need anyone or anything else to make you feel complete. Being a Queen means being driven with a purpose that consumes every fibre of your existence. It is having the hunger, the craving to stand out in a crowd, and the sheer exigency to outshine everyone.

Being a Queen means not being afraid of failures but learning from failures and getting ready for one more attempt with same passion.

 Albeit the next quote has been borrowed, it is something I profoundly believe in, “You’ll be amazed at what you attract, once you start believing in what you deserve.”

And a Queen is not only focused on her growth and ambitions, she also motivates others to be more driven each day, to pursue what makes them happy, and encourages those around her to believe in themselves, to love themselves, and to grow each day, regardless of others opinion of them. She is non-judgmental in dealing with people with different stories and backgrounds. She is on a mission to make this world a happier place to reside in for herself and for those around her.