Tie Me and Love Me

Tying, and the art of Making Love

 

To be tied up as part of making love, is merely to extend the sense of touch and expand physical sensuality. There are parts of the body that are more flexible than others, wrists, ankles, knees, elbows and so on, these are the points with high concentrations of nerve endings.

Any physical restraints applied to there will create contradictory impulses of pain and pleasure and arouse any woman who has that innate craving to be bound and helpless.

In purely biological terms, the conventional sexual act is one of physical domination, male over female with all animals, not just human beings. Rough play and feigned elusiveness is all part of mutual pleasure and desire.

Any normal civilized mind says no to real domination, sexual or otherwise, but primitive urges actively encourage pleasure games as a sexual stimulant..

Wrestling, biting, chasing ñ all may be used within the innocent framework of a loving relationship between free thinking adults, and it is a short step from playfighting and token subjection to actual physical restraint.

Every part of the body can and does react in different ways to various sexual stimuli. A touch that will make one woman recoil in horror will make another explode with pleasure. One may love the sensation of being gagged, while another may hate it. The touch of cold chain may be exciting or a complete turn off in bondage games, as can rubber, leather ropes or handcuffs.

Know your lover, and be constantly aware of her every reaction as you snap a pair of handcuffs on her wrists, the draw her legs up so that her wrists and ankles are chained together.

You see the effect of the cold steel against her skin, her body writhing with pleasure at the mixed up feelings of love and hatred churning around in her brain, muscles straining against the unyielding steel that holds her in thrall, fingers stretching and probing in futile gestures, searching for a freedom that she does not want to find.

She gasps with pleasure as you fit a collar around her pretty neck, then chain it to her wrist cuffs. She becomes a total prisoner to be used and possessed at will.

Aware of no actual pain, she suffers all the torments of the prisoner in bondage, yet it is a suffering drawn from within herself. Torments of passion and desire, inextricably linked with those of pleasure and ecstasy. The lightest touch, the softest caress will bring her suffering to a peak, make her beg for bondage and freedom in the same breath.

She wants to be chained there hand and foot, but at the same time needs freedom to love, to open her legs and take you deep within her body. The gag between her teeth prevents her from taking you into her mouth as she wants to do.

She has become a prisoner of your creation, bound by you and to you. Through care and love and understanding of her needs you have shown her that bondage is exquisitely beautiful and that you care for her emotional and physical wellbeing. Youíve raised her entire response threshold to give new levels of sexual awareness.

She has nothing left of herself to give. Her surrender is total.

You have shown her something that she needs, even though there might not have been a previous awareness of it. This is the gift that is yours to give, if you take time to understand what she wants, and to learn how to respond to it.