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Self- Acceptance

self-es·teem

noun

confidence in one's own worth or abilities; self-respect.

"assertiveness training for those with low self-esteem"

synonyms:

self-respect, pride, dignity, self-regard, faith in oneself

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Kendall Jenner. Kate Middleton. Beyonce. Blake Lively.

These are just some of the thousands of women we feel we have to be like. That's not true. They may be his hers or my definition of perfect but I can tell you right now that they're not.

It's sort of like a bad marriage. The couple may smile and make everyone believe they're happy in public, when at home they could be struggling to get past one of them being unfaithful. So basically, just because someone looks happy doesn't mean they are.

Self acceptance isn't easy. It's one of the hardest things someone can do, but it's vital. Walking around hating yourself isn't healthy. But in the end, loving everything about you can change everything. From the way you see yourself to the way you see the world.

Now I'm honestly the last person who should be saying this, considering I can't find it within myself to stop hating what I see in the mirror, but that's reason enough. I know how it feels. It's pain that I wouldn't wish on my worst enemy. But I also have my days, so I still know how loving yourself feels.

Firstly, who's to say what skinny is? I mean if being 60 pounds at 5'7 is what society wants then take me out because it's simply not going to happen. But if being average weight for your height is going to be considered 'fat' then at least give me long enough to prepare for a fight because I don't feel that anyone is fat. From 60 pounds to 160 pounds everyone is beautiful in their own special way.

Secondly, pretty is whatever we want it to be. If you have acne and want to be pretty then just say you're pretty. If you have bad teeth and want to be pretty then say you're pretty. Nothing holds anyone back from being what they want to be. Now there is a point where it goes to far. Don't post on all of your social media accounts all the time about how 'absolutely stunning' you are, but a 'I feel really pretty today' every now and then is fine.

Third, we all have things we don't like about ourselves. For example, I hate the fact that I don't have a butt, but I'm not about to go pay someone thousands of dollars to make my butt bigger. You don't have to look like Kim Kardashian or Jennifer Lawrence, don't get surgery to.

Forth, we all have a story. A past, something to look back and laugh or cry about. Don't try and cover yours. My mom used to struggle with self- harm. When she had my sister, she stopped. Later, after I was born, she got a tattoo of some flowers on her left arm to cover her scars. You shouldn't be ashamed of what brought you to where you are. That scar from hitting the chair or the scars from the blade, either way they're apart of you and they make you different from everyone else, don't make yourself believe that just because you don't like them someone else won't.

You are loved and you are beautiful, do not be ashamed of who you are, where you came from, or where you are now. Because there is always someone out there who will love each and every part of you. Never forget that.

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But the Lord stood with me and strengthened me.

2 Timothy 4:17