Xenogenders

Neurodiversity and Gender Identity

main explanation

so at first it's really important to be aware that gender roles and gender expression are socially constructed and based in society. though the actual gender identity has nothing to do with social construct because the gender identity is simply based on the brain's sex, which is developed in the womb. so a very common affect that neurodiversity brings is to be unable to understand and to also fit into socially constructed things, like gender roles. many neurodivergent people though confuse the gender roles we're forced in with the actual gender identity. gender identity and gender expression/roles have absolutely no connection. the important thing to mark here is that
gender roles and gender expression are based on social construct and only exists in society.
gender identity is based on medical and scientific aspects and backgrounds.
that's where the misunderstanding often is. neurodiversity affect the understanding of the gender roles that are created by society but it has no connection to the gender identity that's completely and only based on the brain's sex, aka. the gender identity.
therefore its completely clear to say that neurodiversity itself has no affect on the gender identity of anyone, it only affect the socially constructed gender roles that we live in. that often causes a lot of confusion and misunderstanding, though brain scans have shown and revealed that the gender identity is completely based on the brain's sex and has no connection to any social constructs

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social construct

gender identity itself isn't a social construct, though many people mix up gender identity with the gender roles.
gender roles have been created and constructed by the society ever since there was build a difference in how the genders are supposed to act, speak, live their lives, etc.
an example for that would be that in the 1960, a woman was still not oftenly seen in work places because the society has constructed the role that women shouldn't work, women should be the one staying at home, cleansing, cooking and raising the children. to this day there's still people who believe in this gender specific role that has been socially constructed.
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o now to really see the different between socially constructed gender roles and the actual gender identity I'll explain what the gender identity actually is, because many, especially self-diagnosed neurodivergent people have been making their own definitions of it.

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what gender actually is

a gender identity is nothing more than what type of gender-defining brain development and structure you've developed in the womb. gender identity isn't feeling a connection to something that you enjoy or to something that you have a bond with.
the myth that gender identity is based on social construction is simply because many don't see and don't understand the neuroscientific, medical and psychological part that comes with the gender identity. gender identity often gets mixed up with gender roles and sometimes even gender expressions.

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gender expression

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gender expression is partly also affected by social constructs, especially gender roles. that means that in society we often still have the roles of what a woman/man should wear. another socially constructed role would be that nonbinary people have to be androgynous/GNC to be nonbinary and that automatically anyone who's GNC/ androgynous is nonbinary. both are obviously false because gender expression has basically no effect and connection to the gender identity.
an example is, men can dress feminine, wear skirts, high-heels, makeup, etc. and they're still men, that doesn't make them any less of am man.

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misconceptions about neurodiversity

I just also wanna explain that the general misconception of neurodivergent people having a harder time to understand gender itself is statistically wrong. neurodivergent people, especially autistic in this case, have a strong liking and extremely good understanding of scientic facts and historical and factual evidence. statistics have shown that neurodivergent people are actually even more likely to understand the individually gender identity a lot better than neurotypical people because it's easily explained with the right knowledge of science, neuroscience to be very specific.
so by saying that xenogenders and neopronouns are needed, especially for neurodivergent people, that actually pots a factually incorrect picture of what neurodiversity is and how people are affected by their neurodiversity. it could be even considered ableist, since you're putting a wrong and even bad/worsening picture about neurodiversity in the society.