BGS Girl Tips

|How to Choose RIGHT friends|

When we are born, we get associated with our family by blood relation. However, there is a relation, which we choose ourselves. That relation is a friend. Friends make our life beautiful. The adventure of life becomes beautiful when good friends surround us. We all belong to a family, where we have our parents, grandparents, siblings, cousins, etc. We get immense love, care, attention and guidance from our family. However, our entire life does not revolve around our family members only. We all have our own purpose in life. Some members of our family go to school, some go to college, and our parents go to work. We all have a life outside our family. No journey of life seems interesting when traveled alone. We tend to make friends outside our family boundaries as that makes all life activities enjoyable.

So...How do we choose the right ones? 

Building healthy friendships is an important part of your social life. Friends can have a major influence on how you think, feel, and behave.You should look for friends that have good qualities and seek out new friends that are positive and supportive. Also, try to avoid negative friends so you can maintain a healthy, active social life.

Method 1. Looking For Good Qualities in Your Friends.

Tip #1 Make sure your friends offer emotional support and guidance.

Good friends will be willing to support you on a consistent basis, through your high points and your low points. Your friends should offer to support you during any difficult emotional times and be there for you in a real, genuine way. They may also offer guidance and advice when you need it.

For example, if you're going through a rough break up, a good friend would check in on you daily and try to distract you by taking you out.

Good friends offer advice, support, and guidance during difficult times, and only when you ask for it. They support your decisions, even if they don't agree (unless it is very wrong).

Tip #2 Determine if you have a good balance of give and take.

Good friendships also have a good balance of giving and taking, where you feel mutually supported. You should try to cultivate friendships where there is a balance of give and take, and where you do not feel you are giving or taking more than the other person.

Some people are givers; they'll do anything to help and support someone. Others are takers; they'll take someone else's time and energy to fulfill their own needs.

While natural givers may sound like the way to go, you should actually look for friends who can maintain a balance between both of these two extremes.

Tip #3 Decide if your friends bring out the best in you.

Your friends should also encourage you to develop into the best version of yourself you can be. They should help you focus on how you can be yourself and achieve your goals. Your friends should act as your own personal cheer squad, where they proudly encourage you to go after what you want.

For example, if you're trying to get into medical school, a good friend will act interested, encourage you, and help you prepare. They'll also celebrate when you do get in.

Tip #4 Determine if you can communicate effectively with your friends.

 Another key aspect of a good friendship is positive communication, where you can share your thoughts and feelings without limits. You should be able to be yourself around your friends and feel you can share your opinions with them. You should not feel you have to censor yourself or keep quiet about your thoughts around your friends.