Are you hurt and dying to know "how to get him back after a break up"? Is the pain driving you insane? Does it seem like everything you do pushes him away even more? Here is what I mean. Does it seem that everything you do irritates him even more? Is it almost like the more you do to please him, the more he is irked by your efforts? Unfortunately, the women get scared after a breakup and we almost without fail do the exact wrong things when it comes to getting him back. In fact, we start doing the very things and falling into a pattern that even makes matters worse. We find ourselves doing annoying things that make our guy feel smothered after a breakup.