Simp_For_Hundreds
Hey, I don’t really expect you to respond, but I kinda need some advice. So me and my ex-boyfriend (still friends) have started talking again, and I’m really into him, he’s really into me, etc. but he has a new girlfriend and I really dunno what to do, because I wanna keep this going, but at the same time, I don’t condone cheating at all and I don’t wanna do anything to hurt the girl, I just really need someone to talk to about this (kinda) and I don’t wanna tell any of my in person friends about this rn
IDareYouToRead
@Simp_For_Hundreds Hey. I was in a situation not too different from this not too long ago, and so trust me when I say I know it sucks and it's not fun. In the end, I ended up finding his girlfriend on Instagram and being blunt with it and offering receipts (technically no 'cheating' from my end once I knew about her but still flirting from his and still me responding or 'entertaining' it). All I can say is that making sure she knew he may have been putting his relationship in jeopardy was the only way to really clean my conscious. On a harder note, the only way I actually moved on was by cutting him completely out. It was easier for me than most because he moved so I could just block him, but once I had the rose-colored glasses came straight off. I literally couldn't even eat until I got myself out of that mess. It wasn't fun of course, but it was a lot better than the guilt of risking crossing lines and still being the second choice anyway. So I guess my advice would be just tell her if lines were already crossed and cut off the friendship. You're basically trying to put a bandaid on a scratch that you're hitting with a hammer every time you connect with him. That's all I can think off from the top of my head but I hope this gets sorted out, and feel free to ask again if you need anything
