TheGermanGurke

Ein random Thema bitte. Kann alles sein von Pasta über Schultag oder Liebe bis hin zu lgbtqia+-aktivismus

Hello dear brother/sister, I hope you are doing well.
          
          I won't make this too long. I just want to share a little information: from today onwards, I won't be posting messages on the boards anymore because I will be publishing them in my book, "SILENT BATTLES." This book will contain my positive messages and thoughts.
          
          Maybe sometimes I'll still try to post messages on the boards, but only occasionally.
          
          If you think my messages are helpful and they have helped you in some way, you can add my book to your library so you can keep getting updates. Wattpad has a word limit on boards, so now I'll have enough space to write everything in my book.
          
          I'll continue working on "SILENT BATTLES," and I hope I can keep motivating you through my words.
          
          Take care of yourself, and keep doing your best. ✨️🌷

Whenever you feel ignored or rejected, the first thought that appears in your mind is that you shouldn't have put in those efforts in the first place for people who didn't care about you and treated you like you were nothing.
          
          It happens, and it's natural to feel frustrated because you gave your best just for them to acknowledge your efforts and to let them know that you support them. But they didn't understand you or your efforts. They didn't notice the things you did for them, but they were quick to look for your mistakes. And when you confront them about their behavior, they may start backfiring on you by bringing up sensitive topics that can trigger you at any time.
          
          Because of this, you may choose to stay silent, and sometimes, some people decide to become heartless. In other words, they start showing less care.
          
          I truly don't know how many times you have been in such situations, but all I want you to know is this: don't ever think that your efforts were useless or that you wasted your time by showing genuine care. You were actually trying to help someone, but maybe that person didn't have the emotional understanding to realize that someone was truly putting genuine effort into caring for them.
          
          Negativity starts growing the moment you begin blaming yourself because you gave your efforts to someone. It hurts, I know, and I never said that it wouldn't. Yes, it will hurt.
          
          But you need to remind and console yourself that some people simply choose not to appreciate genuine kindness. Sometimes, they may be too busy being drawn towards things and personalities that aren't genuine to notice the real care in front of them.
          
          Your true self isn't proven by people who don't appreciate your genuine support. It is shown through your own actions, your thoughts, and the words you choose.
          
          Don't let someone's inability to appreciate your kindness make you question whether your kindness was real or valuable.

The thinking of the older generation can sometimes feel difficult to understand. Yes, there are many wise people among them who teach us very valuable lessons, but sometimes their words can show something different.
          
          According to some older people, if someone reacts to an insult, jab, or taunt, they think that person isn't strong enough because they themselves have faced a lot in their lives. I agree that life may have been very difficult for them, and they may have faced many awful things because of society. But sometimes, the way they understand emotions can make them seem harsh towards others.
          
          A person doesn't become weak just because they show their emotions when they are hurt, whether it is because of something hurtful they heard or even physical pain. Some older people keep saying things like, “We went through much worse than this, and you can't handle such a small thing?”
          
          Older people expect us to behave like machines. For them, everything may seem minor. Yes, they may show some care during the situation, but later, they may turn the same situation into taunts.
          
          Everyone has a different way of dealing with their struggles and emotions. It is completely up to a person how they choose to handle things, even after going through everything they have faced.
          
          Some people from the older generation have developed the belief that younger people don't have many problems in their lives and are simply throwing tantrums or being dramatic.
          
          I'm not trying to defend or offend any generation or put everyone into the same category. I'm simply explaining a situation that can be seen in society. This is common in many households. Yes, people can be supportive at times, but sometimes their own traumas and hardships can get triggered and make them behave this way.
          
          And thankfully, the current generation is learning more about mental health and is becoming more ready to understand others, even when their own lives are full of struggles.

Mostly, you feel awful and question everything. Sometimes, you feel too insecure about yourself just because their words hurt way too deeply. Their words are like swords, and you can literally feel the wound getting deeper, but the bleeding is silent—too silent. Your cries of agony are screaming to be heard by people who can't stop being harsh and unkind because you have become a target of their frustration and the expectations they put on you.
          
          Sometimes, you just stay silent and stare into space while they are constantly shouting, or even when they add jabs and taunts in between their conversations with you or with others.
          
          I want to remind you of something: it's rare to find people with a better understanding and knowledge of emotions. People who truly understand the concept of mental health and show up with real care and genuine support without judgment are rare.
          
          It's possible that you simply aren't surrounded by such people, and if you do have these people in your life, then surely, that's a good thing. If your life is filled with people who constantly complain about you, then just know that they can play a big role in making everything feel more difficult and messy.
          
          It's rare to find people who actually support us instead of dragging us down and shaming us just because we make some mistakes. It doesn't matter how big the mistake is; it can still be corrected in a proper and positive way.
          
          People who teach you without constantly criticizing you or getting too loud in front of others just to degrade you are rare.
          
          I truly hope your life gets filled with people who care for you and bring infinite positivity into your life.
          
          How are you doing today? How is your day going? You feel like having a deep and wise conversation with anyone then you can have it with me. I'm listening.

Things start getting messed up when you start looking at someone too closely, not to admire or feel inspired, but to start looking for flaws within yourself. You look at someone and immediately start putting yourself down because you think they are better and you are nothing.
          
          It starts eating you up from inside. You begin wondering, “Why? What is wrong with me?” You may start losing your sleep, your hope, and even your sense of your own unique self just because you are looking at someone and thinking that they are perfect from every angle.
          
          [Read the rest in my book, "SILENT BATTLES," because I can't type everything here on the board due to the word limit. You aren't forced to read it, but this chapter is related to how people may feel about themselves after looking at someone they think is too perfect.
          
          Read the chapter, "Your True Self," and you will understand what I'm trying to say. I hope my words will be helpful to you.]

You may have people in your life who are always there when you feel low and try to bring positivity into your life, and it's a good thing that someone is trying. But there is another thing: you may still feel anxious, empty, and overwhelmed because you want those people to actually notice you for once and realize how real the pain you are feeling is.
          
          I'm talking about those people for whom you put in effort, but they don't acknowledge it because they are too caught up in inspecting your mistakes and constantly reminding you about them, even though you are putting in effort for them and trying your best.
          
          Even if the whole world is with you, if that one person keeps neglecting you or your emotions, it can still keep hurting you, and that's understandable. You will feel different emotions according to the moments you go through, but the most important thing is that you shouldn't stay stuck in that phase for too long, as eventually, it can make things even more difficult.
          
          People treat others according to the thoughts they carry and the mindset they have. Their behavior and words can show who they are and how they deal with different situations and people in their lives.
          
          You get hurt by people you are close to because you feel deeply for them and try your best to stay positive for their sake, but they may overlook everything positive inside and outside of you.
          
          If the environment you are surrounded by is toxic, then you are surviving it every day while still not giving up on yourself and the things that matter to you.
          
          Being positive doesn't mean you won't feel bad or overwhelmed. It means that even during those awful moments, you try to stay patient when every thought inside your mind is screaming negativity.
          
          Staying silent while your head is spinning because of negative thoughts can sometimes be your way of trying to stay calm. Learn to appreciate the little things about yourself because people can sometimes be too blind to notice your biggest efforts.

Words can work like both a bandage and a sword. They can go deep and hurt you in ways that can take years to heal. Some wounds are so deep that they leave such a powerful impact that they don't seem to heal easily.
          
          Words can also work like a bandage. Sometimes, you yearn for comforting words from someone—someone who understands your situation and says the words you actually need to hear.
          
          At the same time, words can also be the reason you feel broken and shattered. Some people have such sharp tongues that they can make others bleed emotionally. It can't be seen, but the pain can become too severe to handle at some point.
          
          Sometimes, you just stare into space and keep listening to their words because you know there is no point in arguing with them. They aren't open-minded people, and for them, perfection matters more than anything.
          
          Even if you have done something wrong, instead of correcting you in a proper and healthy way, they choose another way that makes you feel more vulnerable and demotivated. Those people aren't helping you, but they claim to be helpful by saying they are doing it for your own good. Such people aren't ready to accept their own faults because they are too busy finding mistakes in others.
          
          Some people are blind, deaf, and silent when it comes to their own accountability. No matter how powerful they may look, when there is no accountability, it shows a lot about them. They may know everything, but they still choose to stay the same because they don't want to bring positive change within themselves.
          
          Adopt wisdom in your life. It may seem boring, but it can change your life. Peace can come from within when you start understanding that some people only show off by trying to bring others down. They only continue to affect you because you start believing that they are right when they pass judgments on you.
          
          How are you doing today? How is everything? I hope whatever you are struggling with gets better soon.

Irgendwie scheint mir n Gen zu fehlen für diese Scheiß-Mentalität, dass was Lustiges/Unterhaltsames nicht ernst sein kann und was Ernstes nicht unterhaltsam. Wenn jemand sagt, dass irgendein Zitat cool ist, aber dey es komisch findet, dass das Zitat von zum Beispiel einer Fanfic ist, dann ärgert mich das. Als wären lustige Dinge automatisch niedriger als ernste Dinge und als seien die beiden prinzipiell unvereinbar. Auch was Ernstes kann lustig sein, ohne dass es ins Lächerliche gezogen werden muss. Schreibt gern eure Meinung dazu oder einfach ein Emoji - die funktionieren jetzt nämlich auf boards 🫰

You must have thought about life being unfair to you many times. You try your best to fight every battle, you try to handle every situation, you try to meet people's expectations with all your might, and you try to stay with people during their hard times. You try your best in everything, but there are days that make you feel bothered, and you feel like a stranger to yourself. You can't grasp anything because your mind is all jumbled up.
          
          You start questioning everything in your life. There is chaos in your mind, even when you are sitting in complete silence by yourself. Your breathing is the only thing you can hear, but the hurricane inside you is too loud.
          
          Life is full of tests. Life isn't just one test itself; it is full of unpredictable situations and challenges. You move on from one problem, and another one may be waiting for you.
          
          Life is a reality, and nobody can completely escape it. Imagine you are sitting in an examination hall with a question paper in your hand. What if you leave the paper blank? Will you pass? No. Because no matter how difficult the questions are, you have to face them somehow.
          
          Yes, life can be unfair to you, but you are still living your life. Remember that. You need to be careful with yourself throughout this journey.
          
          You may get disappointed many times, but that isn't the end. Life gives you chances, so don't miss them. Grab those chances and do your best.
          
          I understand that life isn't the same for everyone. I'm not in your shoes, so I don't know what life has made you go through. But I just want you to remember not to miss the chances you have. I don't want you to let those thoughts take over your mind and lead you to neglect yourself.
          
          Your life can improve when you try to make improvements yourself. It isn't impossible. It is possible when you slowly train your mind to think in a more positive way.