Writing this story has been one of the hardest things Iāve ever done. While itās not autobiographical, much of it draws from my personal experiences and relationships. Needless to say, writing it stirred up many difficult memories, and it took me quite a while to finish. But Iām glad I didāitās been a truly cathartic release.
Everyoneās journey is different, and I donāt claim to be an expert on relationships. However, Iād like to share a few things Iāve learned along the way:
Many of us grew up romanticizing the idea of āfighting for loveā or the notion of a love that triumphs āagainst all odds.ā We think itās romantic to be someoneās savior or to be rescued, believing that enduring pain and hardship together is a sign of true love. But Iāve come to realize that true loveāas I believe it was intended by Godāis about peace of mind, safety, and security. Itās about mutual support, helping each other grow, not just as a couple, but as individuals.
After a breakup, itās important not to rush into a new relationship, or back into the old one, simply because you miss the person. Take the time to heal and reach a place where youāre genuinely happy on your own. If youāre not content being single, a relationship wonāt magically make you happy either.
If youāre dealing with mental health issues, remember that youāre not alone. Surround yourself with a supportive network, and donāt hesitate to seek professional help if needed. Your mental health is just as important as any other part of you.
Finally, loving someone doesnāt mean staying in a relationship thatās doing more harm than good. There are moments when holding on is necessary, but letting goāwhen itās the healthy or right thing to doādoesnāt mean you love the person any less.
If youāve read this story, thank you for joining me on this emotional rollercoaster. Iād love to hear about your own journey and what youāve learned, if youāre open to sharing. :)
https://www.wattpad.com/story/378347869-home-is-not-a-place