there are four people you need to forgive if you're really serious about changing your life and learning how to live in the present. the first people you have to forgive are your parents, living or dead. you must absolutely forgive them for every mistake they ever made and bringing you up. the second persons you have to forgive are the people from your marriages or relationships that didnt work out. the third person you must forgive is everyone else in your life ever hurt you in any way. clean the slate, forgive and forget. wipe away each of their names and wipe the images off by just saying, whenever you think of, 'i forgive him or her for everything and i wish the best for them.' the fourth and final person you have to forgive is yourself. you must absolutely forgive yourself for every silly or cruel things that you have ever done or said. stop carrying past mistakes around with you. that was then and this is now.