12 Things I Learned About Dating

I love you until Further Notice

     I mentioned previously that I will mention this one on a different chapter, for the reason that this topic is very important that we really need to dive in deeper.

     Humans are wired to be a social creature although we are in a time that we acknowledge that there is a type of a person that is better off alone. In general, most of us live for others and because of others. Acceptance is recognized by Abraham Maslow as an essential factor for human survival which leads us to my point that undeniably, some of us desire reassurance. We want everything to be sure for us; we are too picky in the food that we eat, subscribe to insurance, careful in investing and even cautious in choosing a lifetime partner.

     To make things clear, if he/she has no intentions of choosing you for good, then that is the ULTIMATE RED FLAG. If your partner has been saying, “I love you but it is too early talking about the future” Then what are you? A one night stand? A I-love-you-now-until-I-find-someone-better-than-you person? I have to admit that there are some people who are not comfortable talking about settling down and I cannot blame them. Probably a trauma from a broken family or a wound from serious breaks up. Having been hurt from the past, we also need to consider giving some ample but definite time. The decision that we make can definitely save us more money, time, and energy and from tears and heartbreak. If the laws of their land favour couples to divorce because they have fallen out of love, then easy for them.

     We may have different opinions about this sensitive topic but just imagine a marriage working out because both of you chose to be together. What a wonderful like would that be? A fresh new start everyday with the same partner, who already knows, accepts and loves you. By the end of the day, it is still you who will choose. If you still see your lover being unsure, talk about it and work it out.