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Hi everyone. I know I said I would publish this chat session a lot sooner than I actually did and I'm really sorry for that but I'm trying to spend a reasonable time on and off my phone. I hope you understand. ❤️
Alright, so shyness. I bet everyone in the world has gone through a time or moment where they were shy. It's human nature. Some people come out of their shells sooner than others, but the vast majority of young kids, teenagers, and even young adults struggle with shyness.
I myself as a teenager can confirm that I still have my shy moments. I'd say by now I've definitely improved with my communication skills with other people and especially strangers, along with public speaking, and similar things to that. I feel like my shyness has worn off due to age and maturity which comes differently to everyone. So what happens to me might not happen to you. Everyone's different. Although I feel as though your shyness will wear off as you get older, there are definitely things you can do now to help yourself become less shy and more confident.
1. Greet people
I've found that this has worked for me and it's something so small and easy to start with. Just waving or giving a small smile to people - doesn't matter if you know them or not - will help you work towards being more social. That's what I think. If you're going for a walk and someone happens to drive by, give them a small smile or wave. It makes you come off as friendly and it might even make someone's day! I do this all the time whenever I go for walks in my neighborhood and many people smile and wave back. It's a nice feeling. However SOME PEOPLE have the audacity to just stare at you and not wave or smile back. Looking at you Karen. But don't let these people tear you down. You took the time to make someone's day better and that's what matters. If they chose to be a scum bag, that's their problem. Don't let their actions affect yours.
2. Start a small job
If you're my age, so maybe a middle aged teenager, then you have many opportunities to start working a small job. You could be a dog walker, mow people's lawns, maybe a babysitter, the list goes on. If you're interested in this I'd recommend looking up jobs accepting teenagers your age in your area. There are so many benefits to getting a job at this age:
- It'll help you over come your shyness by putting you in situations where you communicate with other people. For example, at the gym that I go to for the sport I do, there's a kid who started working there as a coach before Covid. He was about my age at the time and he was super shy. Like this kid never said anything. I left for a year because of Covid and when I came back a couple of months ago, he was still working there as a coach and it was like he was an entirely new person. He was so much more confident than he was before and it definitely showed.
- If you're working a paying job then hopefully it'll help you pay for things on your own in a few years time. My friend babysits and she's already saving up to buy a car when she turns 16.
- Starting a job early looks really good on college resumes (that is if you plan on going to college). It shows that you're responsible, reliable, and are capable of a lot of things.
I plan on starting a job myself soon so if anyone wants any advice I might be able to help if/when I start.
If you're starting or are already in high school, then you'll know that there are so many opportunities in high school. Something that I'd definitely recommend to help you communicate more with your peers and teachers is to participate in clubs and/or sports. I plan on joining a couple of clubs this year in hopes that I'll meet new friends. Clubs also look good on college resumes along with sports.
My overall message for this chat session is don't be afraid to to put yourself out there. I understand that a lot of people will find it really hard at first and some people have social anxiety so it can be very difficult for them, but if you work on overcoming your shyness one little step at a time, you'll find that eventually you will get there. Things like this take time, so don't expect it to happen over night. You got this, I know you can do it.
I hope this helped you get an idea of how to overcome your shyness but if there's ever anything else I can help with I'll try my best to help as much as I can.
This chat session's song is...
'Human' by Christina Perri
Always remember that you are here for a reason and that you are loved. Have a great day/night!
