Advices

Third Advice - Love (part 2)

Sa pagibig - lalo na sa isang relasyon - hindi lang dapat isa ang nagmamahal at nag-eeffort.

It takes two to tango, ika nga. Dalawa dapat kayong kumikilos at nagtatrabaho para palaguin at mas patibayin ang relasyon na magkasama ninyong binuo nung una. Relasyon na nagpapaligaya sa inyong dalawa.

Hindi maiiwasan magkasakitan, oo. Hindi maiiwasan na may mapagod. Pero ano ba dapat ang ginagawa kapag napapagod na? Hindi ba dapat magpahinga? Dahil yun naman talaga dapat eh. Magpapahinga ka para magkaroon ka uli ng lakas lumaban at ipaglaban ang relasyon nyo. Hindi yung gagawin mong dahilan yung pagod mo para bitawan at sirain ang relasyong ipinundar ninyo ng magkasama.

Isipin mo na paano kung siya yung napagod? Papayag ka ba na bumitaw na lang bigla sya ng ganun-ganon? Kung may isang napapagod na sa relasyon, dapat magsilbing energy booster yung isa. Wag mo syang iiwan. Dapat palagi kang nandyan para damayan sya. Para pagkunan nya ng lakas para muling lumaban.

Dahil kapag nakita at naramdaman nya na lumalaban ka para sa relasyon nyo, para sa inyong dalawa, magkakaroon din sya ng lakas at dahilan para lumaban din kasama mo.

'Wag mong gawing dahilan yung pagod mo para humanap ng iba. Hindi solusyon sa pagod ang paghanap ng iba. Mas lalo ka lang mapapagod kasi dalawa na sila or should I say hindi pa man natatapos ang issue mo sa una, may responsibilidad ka na din agad sa pangalawa.

Lagi mong ilagay ang sarili mo sa sitwasyon ng iba. Paano kung sya naman yung napagod? Papayag ka ba na idahilan nya yung pagod nya para iwan ka at humanap ng iba?

"Napagod kasi ako" line is just so over used among breaking relationships. They make it an excuse to free themselves of the person they once loved so dearly. They make it an excuse because they are not man or human enough to face responsibilities. Because they can't comply with the commitment they made.

And that reason is lame. Believe me, it is so lame that you wouldn't want it to be the reason to you of a person leaving you behind (if ever there is).

Talk. It is so important for a relationship to have conversation on a regular basis (or if not, at least often). As many says, don't let a day pass without talking to each other especially when you have issues that need to be clarified and resolved.

A simple conversation can make a big change on how your relationship works. On how the two of you look at life and the future ahead of you. You will grow as a couple and as an individual and the good thing in it is you grow together. That's sweet right?

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Love is a choice.

There's no such thing as falling in love. It is a choice made by an individual to satisfy his/her desire.

Desire of having that particular person in their life because of the beauty they perceived of them. Physical beauty or beautifulness as a person.

You chose to love.

You felt something towards a person and you choose to nourish that feeling.

You always have the choice of loving a person or not. Romantically or in any other ways.

We always have the control of making decision on what to do and choose. It's either we choose what we really want and what will make us happy or we choose what people tells us to choose because 'it's the right thing' and 'it's good for us' and that our parents and family told us so.

Sa pagpili, hindi dapat tayo nagpapadala sa dikta ng iba. Piliin mo kung ano talaga yung gusto mo at magpapasaya sayo. Piliin mo kung ano yung gusto at sinasabi ng puso mo.

Isipin mo kung anong mga pwedeng mangyari pag pinili mo ang isang bagay. Ano ang mga maaaring maging kapalit nito. Sino sino ang mga maaapektuhan sa desisyon mo. Consider others but don't let them change your choice just because of what they might feel.

Isip at puso. Gamitin mo sila pareho - ng sabay - sa pagpili ng desisyon. Dahil pag nagtugma yang dalawang yan? You'll find the true happiness. Genuine happiness.

At pag nakita ng mga tao sa paligid mo na masaya ka sa desisyong napili mo and that it helped you grow as a person, then, they will be happy for you too. Everything will fall into its right places eventually.

Choose wisely.