Everyone has their own move. That move they do to really wow someone. Well BDSM has a trademark too. Take a look at Alex and his sub Miranda. They shared a short intimate story and told me all about the small things that did them a big favor. Alex would come home and demand I remove his clothes. That always gave me a sort of Dominative feeling by not letting him do it. He would motion for me to sit atop the island in front of the glass french doors in broad daylight. We lived by a highway and park so tons of people could glance over and see it all go down as he'd wrap the satin ropes around my hands in between my legs and up to my chain. I'd arch my back so the rope would slide over my clit giving a slight spark to my core. I love the blindfolds. The never knowing when each touch, blow, brush, or feather is going to happen. Its thrilling. I love it when she fights her moans and squirms at the slightest touch. The way she gasps and gags massages the head and is quite sensational. Makes a man wanna place his stakes. The best part is the end, when we are dressed and there's no sign of her struggles or my slaps. No sign of sex but the slight elevated breathing. There is just something about it. Miranda said she finds it stimulating as well.
Small things like the feather or satin ropes can elevate to but not quite reach subspace. Subspace is that flood of adrenaline and endorphins that makes you feel like you're floating almost. Subspace is amazing, the high can be brief but it can leave a semi long term effects like weak limbs and tingling sensation all over. Every Dom and Sub needs to reach subspace at least once in there whole life. I am a Dom by nature but I was determined to become a Sub and reach subspace before ever working on someone else. Let me tell you how I got to subspace. I was with my current partner the last time I achieved subspace and this experience was on an emotional level.
We were cuddling then I leaned over to grab my phone and change the song when he took my phone and began to play keep away. Well this game of keep away got rough and i pulled him down and we began to wrestle. You must understand. This man is 6 foot and 255lb i'm only 5'5" at least and 185lb. He pulled my hair back and pressed against me breathing down my neck with his soft kisses. I ran my fingertips along his strong shoulders and across the edge of his wide shoulder blades before flicking through his hair. We fling ourselves on the bed and stripped down. He would caress my hips and make his way up to my breasts leaning up to suck and bite my nipples. I felt that tingling and filling sensation in my clit as I rotated my hips and sped up the pace while he dug into my back and right as he was about to explode I felt it. I got this hot tingling rush all over and everything went blank as the rush shot out of me and covered him and his sheets. That was the last time I reached subspace. Its been 6 months so if you don't achieve subspace every time don't worry it isnt you and it may not be your partner. It just doesnt happen everytime for everyone.
Understand there are many ways to get to subspace. Through S&M, D/s, B&D, all of which are under the vast spectrum which is BDSM. S&M is a situation in which one physically enjoys pain. The sadist will inflict pain upon the masochist and they both win.There is a combination called sadomasochist, this person not only gets off by giving the pain but by getting hurt too. D/s is more of my scene. Dom and sub. Its a psychological power play where the Dominant is in control or has power over the submissive. Finally B&D a physical and psychological restraints. Both cuffs on the body and the mind. Psychological restraint or restrictions would velike you tell them what they can and cannot do or wear. Physical restraints should be a given. All of these show two categories. A sadist and a masochist, Dom and Sub, Bondage and Discipline. The roles can be switched no matter what. Along as you can do it, it can be done. A lot of misconception for newcomers is that males can be Sub because men are naturally Dominant. That isn't true. Yes we view men as the dominant role and a large percent of me and naturally authoritative but men can be subs as well. It's all about what they want out of it and who they are with. There are other factors but for now I will focus on the two big ones according to experience.
Women are seen as a submissive entity in society. Today's times women are viewed as submissive but we are stronger today than the generations before us. There are more women in the BDSM scene today than ever before. Kayla and I are proof of that. Kayla is a young independent woman. She is what we call a switch. A switch can be a Dom or a sub. Alex and her man Joseph have a blended relationship. Theirs is more like an S&M but both are sadomasochists. Alex tells me for her its not the dominance its the inflictions and the look. That moment where she sees the mask grow thin and she sees the real desire and she leaks a little of what Joseph wants into this but holds back on him just to see the longing and desperation. Joseph gave a similar statement only his wasnt about infliction but receiving and knowing she is getting it good.
Sometimes its like that. Where your partner with put him or herself in a role where they don't get the full feel just to get you off in a major way. Don't take this as an act of sheer love because its more ecstasy than that but there is an emotional bond involved it this form of sex and in all forms of BDSM committed with a close partner. It takes a lot of trust and to allow them to tie you up in dangerous looking positions and contraptions only to make your whole body shake and shiver its ecstasy and trust and love Thats just a tidbit for the curious vanilla lovers reading.
Here is a touchy portion. Bi and Gay as well as Omni sexual interactions. There are gays who won't come out yet its over-the-top-obvious they're gay. Sometimes it can be very difficult for them to come out into this field and be themselves but once the do oh its on baby. Charles is a masochist who prefers to be dominant but wants to be the one being controlled. Okay so here is how that works. Even though Charles is the one being tied up and screwed he is calling the shots. He verbally gives orders or uses signals to tell the sub/dom what to do. I've been meaning to try this. Charles says its the best of both worlds. Charles during the interview gave vivid detail stating " I'd tell him to strip naked and he would put me in what ever position the look i gave him corresponded to and then he would undress and tease me allowing for some cock worship and a good view.most of the time the men. I am with are open with their gayness but some are not and it makes for a different setting.
I myself am a Bisexual kinkster along with my friends Chantal. Chantal and I have a different relationship when it comes to this. There is no penetration. I know, how is it sex without penetration but trust me it works. This kind is about mental stimulation, physical stimulation, and hitting the right nerves. My favorite part was public display. We would go somewhere where people didn't know us and find all the fun places to mingle with our kind or those curious of it and put on a show. I'd be a bad school girl and she would use all of our utensils on me balls if teaching a class but she knew when I was done being the bottom bitch because I would snark back some smart ass remarks.
I loved having her tied to a desk and openly teasing and fucking. Sometimes we would have a friend from the audience come up and fuck us up with whips and paddles as if competing with each other to see who could hold out the longest. I rarely won that battle.
