How to Survive Being a Girl

Breakups

Breakups suck ass.

I've honestly never experienced one. But a lot of my friends have, so I guess I'm prepared to write about this.

I find that sharing your feelings make you feel a lot better. I used to bottle up my feelings and it really wasn't good for me. Like, I would drop something and burst out crying because I never let out my feelings.

Don't share your feelings with someone who dismisses them like they don't matter.

Maybe have a sleepover with your best friends. Stay away from all romantic movies. Stay away from horror movies too. Listen to girl-bands and music by powerful women. It always makes me feel better. Eat candy and watch funny videos. Listen/Sing along to "Let It Go." Don't stay on your phones all night. Actually interact.

Don't be afraid to cry. There is nothing wrong with crying. Crying actually makes you feel like you have a weight lifted off your shoulders.

I'm gonna quote an article because what they say is really important, and I'm assuming the author has experienced a breakup.

"Remember what's good about you. This one is really important. Sometimes people with broken hearts start to blame themselves for what's happened. They may be really down on themselves, exaggerating their faults as though they did something to deserve the unhappiness they're experiencing. If you find this happening to you, nip it in the bud! Remind yourself of your good qualities, and if you can't think of them because your broken heart is clouding your view, get your friends to remind you. [...]

Some people feel that nothing will make them happy again and resort to alcohol or drugs. Others feel angry and want to hurt themselves or someone else. People who drink, do drugs, or cut themselves to escape from the reality of a loss may think they are numbing their pain, but the feeling is only temporary. They're not really dealing with the pain, only masking it, which makes all their feelings build up inside and prolongs the sadness.

Sometimes the sadness is so deep - or lasts so long - that a person may need some extra support. For someone who isn't starting to feel better after a few weeks or who continues to feel depressed, talking to a counselor or therapist can be very helpful.

So be patient with yourself, and let the healing begin."

- TeenHealth on Breakups