People say that there are five love languages. Acts of service, physical touch, quality time, receiving gifts, and words of affirmation. As lovely as it sounds to have all these five things, i personally think that there's one thing left missing.
At first i didn't know what it was.
As time went by, one time, i scrolled around some reels on instagram and found a reel about love language and she said that there should be a 6th love language which is:
Knowing and understanding.
And at that moment i was like: That was it. The solution for all the things. Yes, having a partner who could provide you acts of service, physical touch, quality time, gifts, and words of affirmation is such a wonderful thing. But knowing and understanding? That's a higher level of love.
Knowing your partner's dislikes, understanding their weaknesses. That might sound like a 'bare minimum' but to me, once you've reached this stage. You know you're deeply in love.
They say 'For better and for worse'. Yet those 5 languages shows all the 'better' sides of things, and while those are lovely, One of the things that we couldn't avoid is that: All humans are imperfect. We make mistakes, but once we truly know our partner: We'll lower our ego because you'll know that love is much more worth fighting for. That even if our partner may not be able to provide all five of those love languages, you understand that it's something that may be beyond their capability, And it's okay:) and you still love them either way.
That's the 6th love language that you need to have.
And if somehow your partner shows lack of 'knowing and understanding', try to tell them where their mistakes are. If they do realize they made a mistake and tried to improve, again as a partner: Know and understand that everyone can make mistakes.
But of course, they shouldn't be repeating it over and over because that means they don't actually feel guilty in the first place. And if they insist on holding their ego. There's your answer.
It's probably isn't love.
So yeah, to this day, i believe in the 6th love language.
