In the Hush of Souls

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u/SilentWoman312  • 5h

CAN AN ARRANGED MARRIAGE ADD SOME SPICE TO MY BORING LIFE?

Life Advice

Today, I am meeting my soon-to-be husband.

So, my mom has been on my case for not finding a boyfriend for so many years. NBSB po kasi ako, pasensiya na. Wala lang talaga sigurong nagkakagusto sa akin. And last week, she dropped the bomb that my childhood crush is on the hunt for a wife, and his mother, who's close with mine, suggested me. Pumayag naman siya kaagad.

Haven't seen the guy since I was 10, they moved away from our small town, and we weren't even that close. But, well, he's smart and quiet, obviously my type, so I said yes. Crush ko siya noon pero hindi na ngayon. Now, I'm second-guessing. Should I go for it? I'm kind of regretting my choice because it's marriage, not just some simple game I'm participating.

Kindly help a friend out! Parang awa niyo na po, I need some advice!

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u/JustASlut • 2h

Girl? Twenty-seven years old? NBSB? I-grab mo na 'yan! Masyado ka nang matanda para umayaw! Kung ako sa'yo, susulitin ko na ang pagkakataon at hindi na maghahanap pa ng lalaking mahahalin dahil ganoon lang din, makakatabi mo rin naman sa kama tuwing gabi. Sisipangan ka rin, isusubo mo rin, pasasayahin mo rin, ano ba ang pinagkaiba? Wala, 'di ba? It's a waste of time to find one with that age of yours. Hindi umuurong ang edad mo, always remember that.

May lumalapit na sa'yo. Si God na ang nagbibigay ng chance for you to rebuild your life. Not to offense you, pero masyado ngang boring ang buhay mo. Make it better naman.

Do it.

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u/TitaMongPihikan • 3h

Hays. Nabasa ko pa lang ang title ay napa-buntong hininga na ako.

Miss OP, hindi 'yan ang solusyon sa buhay mong boring! Ako, thirty-three years old, walang boyfriend, walang asawa, pero masaya!

Maybe you label your life as boring because you're not doing what you love. You constantly obey your mother's opinions, even though she doesn't really have the authority to question nor pressure you all the time. Remember, it's your life. Cherish it.

Paano kapag hindi nag-work? Paano kung abusive pala ang lalaki? Paano kung may kirida pala at pinakasalan ka lang dahil may mas malalim at nakakatakot na rason? Have you ever considered these thoughts? What would you do? Hindi ka na makakatakas pa!

Kung ako sa'yo, don't do it. Back out. Sa edad mong 'yan, may makikilala ka pa. And FYI lang, being twenty-seven isn't old. You're at your prime, so do everything you love rather than binding yourself to a commitment that surely have some consequences later on.

Iyon lang. Bye.

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u/GoWiththeFlow • 1h

Advice ba ang hinahanap mo?

Ganito lang kasi 'yan, friend!

Kung may respeto, may maayos na trabaho, may takot sa Diyos, willing kang alagaan forever, malaki ang t*te, mahaba ang pasensiya, mabango, at siyempre guwapo, sino ka para tumanggi? Huwag mo na siyang pakawalan kung nandiyan sa mga nasabi ko ang traits niya. Sobrang swerte mo na siguro.

Pero kung wala siya sa mga nabanggit, nako OP, huwag na huwag kang papayag! Atras!

You're entering a lifelong commitment, so it's wise to choose a man who possesses those qualities. Otherwise, ikaw ang kawawa.

Kung ikakasal kayo, edi go! Learn how to love him na lang, beh! At kung hindi ka pumayag, that just means wala siya sa mga nasabi ko.

As simple as that.

Best wishes, YOLO.

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