This Is Not Ok. Rants By Rawry

I Love Girls.

Hey guys so I know I haven't written in my rant book for a while, but I lot of serious things have come up in my life. 

I say a lot of stupid things. I am human. I text a lot of things and I tweet a lot of things and I write a lot of things that are hurtful and mean. I do these things because I am an idiot and I jump into action. I hardly ever really think about what I am going to say or do before I do them. If you know me then you pull the whole that is so Keira line and don't really do anything after that. If you don't know me, and I am surprised about how many people don't know me, then you might be offended or hurt or just feel sorry for me. When these things happen the most common response I get is girls don't act like that. 

I will never be surprised to hear that answer to my life. I will be outraged and confused, but never ever surprised. The title of this entry may be a bit confusing so let me clarify; I am bisexual and genderfluid and I do like girls, but what I mean is I love girls because we are so much stronger than what we appear to be. People underestimate us an it's not just men but woman as well. We underestimate ourselves and I get so upset about it. 

Everything around me has a gender. Make up is for girls. Boxers are for boys. Razors are for men unless they are pink or unless they come with some ultra soft extra thing added to it. How fucked up is it that I get strange looks for buying Batman boxers because I like them and just so happen to have boobs? The cashier gave me strange looks. She first asked me if I knew where I found them in. I said yes they were in the section in the back with the rest of the boxers. She smiled and nodded her head. Then she said to me; I'm sure you boyfriend will like these. I said I'm sure he would, too bad these are for me and not him. My aunt was embarrassed to buy them with me and then she pulled them aside and said that girls don't wear boxers. 

Why do we take this? The sneaky sexist comments, the restrictions, the requirements, the 'suggestions.' I tell people I can't cook and the first thing that comes out of people's mouths is how can you be a good wife if you can't cook? How do you expect to take care of your husband and kids if you can't put dinner on the table. These things aren't just being said to me, but to tons of girls. A lot of women in some countries don't have the option to say screw that. Women in some countries have no rights at all. So instead of taking the opportunity to do something with the rights we are given as women we let things like this go. We fall in line. We pretend these things don't bother us and we keep our mouths closed. We don't lead we follow because that is what women are expected to do. 

Some women do the exact opposite and they fight with everything they have to make these double standards and these preconceived notions go away. It is so hard to take them seriously when woman can't take ourselves seriously. Women get mad when men call them bitches, whores, and sluts. Whose making them think that those names are okay...we are. We call each other those names and then men think it is okay to call us those names. Once they start calling us sluts and whores, they believe we are sluts and whores, and then they start treating us like sluts and whores. 

People have formulated this idea in their minds that if you are a women you like being touched. If you are a woman you like being catcalled and you take it as a form of endearment. You tell someone you don't like being catcalled you get called ungrateful or that you can't take a compliment. When I was sexually harassed someone said to me 'at least you know men like you now.' Those were the words of concern I was given. As if my one and only concern before and after that moment was if men liked me. I'm not going to lie sometimes I wonder if I am pretty enough or if this person likes me.  Just because I get those feeling or insecurities does not mean that is all I care about. 

The worst thing about being in a world where people think things like that are okay is the fact it is so easily justified. A woman wearing a short dress or short shorts or a mid-drift isn't embracing their sexuality, they aren't being proud of their body shapes or feeling empowered they're asking for it. If a woman is not wearing a sack over their body then they are asking for it. A dress that makes them feel pretty and great is a dress that screams take advantage of me. If a woman is hot and wears shorts that aren't below the knee those shorts are yelling to the world 'touch me. pinch my ass. do whatever you want to me.' Sadly in this century women don't say what happens to them their clothes do. 

Again this makes this our duties to not let this continue. If I have a daughter some day I want her to wear whatever she feels comfortable in without having to worry about some creep thinking he can do whatever he wants to her. This is our job to turn this around to show no matter what we wear we aren't asking for it. The world is becoming more and more violent and we are scared of the world. We aren't scared because we could get robbed or someone could steal your car. We are scared because people are finding more and more drugs that can't be detected. That can be put in a drink and no one would know. Women are afraid because every time we step outside our houses we are 'asking for it.' Cops aren't any better because they think that all women are sluts. Not all cops think this, but that is what the majority of them say. I speak from experience. They think that all woman are going to fast and just like to report rape and harassment left and right because we can. We have to prove that women are serious about what we say and do. It is our job to let people know that what are clothes might say to you means nothing because I am saying no. 

Double standards and slut shaming don't make this any easier. Men are told to try and have sex at a young age. When a 15 year old boy is caught having sex they aren't focused on the boy they are focused on what girl they were having sex with and using her as some kind of prize. When a 15 year old girl is caught having she is attacked. She is called a whore. She is told to keep her legs closed and wait until marriage. They are told that no one wants to sleep with a girl who has sex with a bunch of guys. The girl is no longer looked at as daddy's little girl, but the boy is seen as a man. Girls don't make it any easier. Instead of supporting each other we slut shame we call names, we don't want to be seen with another girl known for having sex, but we all want the boys who have been around. Manwhore is not an insult, but a form of flattery. There is nothing wrong with a girl having sex. There is nothing wrong or bad about a girl liking sex. Sex is not just for men and men are not the only ones who are allowed to enjoy. The preconceived idea that woman want sex that is soft and gentle and slow is bullshit. It honestly, and this may come as a shock, depends on what she wants. If a girl wants slow sex and you are prepared to give it to her that is fine. If a girl wants fast high paced sex and you are prepared to give it to her that is also fine. How can girls know what they want out of sex if they can't experiment?

People seem to think that women can only do something if it pleases the man. Women can only have children if the man wants them. Women can only dress nice and put effort into what she wears if she is trying to impress a man. Women can only wear makeup to look nice for men. Women are not possessions and they are not prizes. Wearing makeup can be for yourself. It 9 out 10 times for ourselves. Do whatever makes you happy and not what will make other people happy. 

Everything we do does not have to be a political statement, but not everything we do has to mean nothing either. Slut shaming and double standards can all be stopped by us simple enforcing our power. Showing everyone that we are people too. We are more than just the women who make breakfast and push out children. We are future presidents, doctors, lawyers, writers. We are women and we can whatever the hell we want to be. We can't and we won't let anyone take that away from us. We help each other out not tear each other down. We show the world what women can do and why they should be afraid. We are not weak, stupid, naive, or unaware of what is going on. We are the brightest, strongest, and most aware people there is.  

I can finally breath now getting that off my chest. 

Now I am going to be a self promoting asshole. 

I have three new books I've updated and it would be really cool if you guys would check them out. 

Time Lapse: It's an unpopular ship but I did it for someone I love. It is Oli Sykes and Kellin Quinn. I feel like it's going to be great. 

Everything In Between: I feel like it's going to be a controversial story but still great 

Will You Sing To Me: Kellic. That is all.