The Gun His Crown; He The King

Chapter 5

Through the art of Being Friendless

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Friends. Best friends. Associates. Acquaintances. Any form of a person that you hold communication with and immerse in a verbal activity with.

There was all types of them everywhere. The good, the bad, the ugly, the fake, the truth, the lies. All of it and it was almost hard to decipher who was who. Almost.

Some were just very good at their game and others? You could read them like an open book. They showed their pieces and their moves.

But nonetheless they were all the same.

Those that would turn their backs on you in less than a minute. With no care in the world of how it would effect you. Trapped in a 'friendship' with such people before you even realized it until it was too late.

I guess some people were just fortunate to find real friends who'd stick by them no matter the circumstance.

Those who were lucky enough to find friends that they could trust with all their heart, who they could depend on, and entrust with their deepest and darkest secrets, and them the same, those where whom that were truly blessed with amazing people.

A true friend. A true friend is someone who lets you have total freedom to be yourself —and especially to feel. Or, not feel. Nonetheless, whatever you happen to be feeling at the moment is fine with them. That's what real li-love amounts to —letting a person be what they really are, who they really are. A true friend is someone who always listens and is genuinely interested in the good and bad, and someone who calls or writes just to say hello. A true friend always supports the person even if they aren't obliged to support the situation. A true friend knows how and when to say a firm, "No."

A best friend. Not many people have the opportunity to call someone their best friend. Having the ability to identify someone in your life as being more important than all those..other friends and having such a strong connection with such a person, though it is not romantic, is absolutely incredible beautiful and unwordly amazing.

To bestow onto a person with the title of "best friend" is not many of a chance that people are able to hold. But with such a title involves compromise, trust, and a mutual growth that allows certain friends to last through decades and incredible life changes.

Showing another being that you care about them and that their happiness and prescence in your life is important to you on an everyday basis.

Being a best friend means having the ability to make the effort to say "We really should talk more often" without being asked. Yet it is to be understood that he or she may not be able to tell you what is going on as easily as they would say.. A romantic partner. For the fact being that, they have been taught by society that such friendships are to go perfectly, smoothly or to not happen at all, and never to be worked on.

Yet, to work on such things are what friendships are made of. It is essential for having a friendship.

There will be disagreements, you will want different things, you will fight many times throughout . Being able to take space away to gather your thoughts is alright and it is not a bad thing to do.

Being best friends means the ability and willingness to learn and adapt, to understand that you cannot control this person or make them be who you want them to be, and that you love them precisely because they are their own person.

As best friends you both are keeper of one another's secrets. They've cried in front of you where as they don't cry in the face of others. The one they tell first about who they're crushing on or who they've started dating. You both are able to be yourselves in the face of one another. You are there through the harsh and messy breakups, the reality of undeserving friends, you are with them when they are searching for what it is that they are looking for, and through the mistakes they are making and going to make.

Mistakes that you know you have to let them make themselves and learn from it just as they will allow you yours.

Being this type of person for someone is nothing less than a gift and it is so much more. You are the person they give the key and the treasure box of their secrets to. You are the one to tuck away their confessions, their feelings, their desires safely away for them. You are the one that they speak to about family matters and different types of relationships and all sorts of topics they often may feel they have no one else to turn to with.

Being a best friend is to be a sort of therapist when you are trying to figure out things for yourself.

Being a best friend may not be an easy thing to do, and there are a lot of obstacles in the way during such a journey. Yet, it is a giftful task and in itself is its own reward. For the being that when everything is going wrong for you and there is only ever one person you know that you can depend on to call, who will be free of all sorts of judgment, who will brighten up your day like no other, you can not say that it is not worth it.

Anyone would want such a relationship. Yet, there are people gifted with friends of despise, lies, torment, and worthlessness. Friends who break you down at every corner. Who tear away what was left of you piece by piece for their own enjoyment. These people can not be friends. They are not ones that can be easily forgiven and continue on such a relationship. For the fact that, a relationship of that sort is very toxic and may end up as deadly.

Having a relationship where a person picks at everything about you, from your clothing to your physical appearance is not something that should be allowed to go on. No matter the circumstance.

They were like snakes waiting for their next victim and taking great care before they went in for their kill.

I've had the experience with such people and though I hated it, I learned from my mistake. It made me think and made me realize what I needed to watch out for. Unfortunately it cost me a lot.

And It it was ok.

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