AITA? Reaction

6. Assuming daughter could have a 3rd plate.

AITA for assuming my daughter could have a 3rd plate?

Throwaway because my sister knows my reddit and I don't want this causing drama

Yesterday, My sister hosted a family dinner at her house. It was one of those "just because" dinners, no special occasion. My sister is a great cook and she made tons of food for that one night. My daughter, was on her second plate by the end of the night. Once she finished she asked if she could get another one. I said yes. But my sister (her aunt) looked at her with a shocked expression and said "Another plate?".

Yeah. She's hungry. Let her eat.

My daughter turned around and gave a somewhat un comfortable look.

My daughter is 16, and has 2 part time jobs to pay for some of her college tuition, so she usually doesn't eat until 7-8pm.

Even if this wasn't the case why can't she have more?

So I didn't even blink twice when she got up to grab her 3rd plate.

I turned to my sister and said she's been working all day without anything to eat, you made tons of food,

So there was enough food for her to get a 3rd and also for others.

At least that's what I get from this line.

it won't hurt for her to get another plate. My sister started yelling

Girl, chill.

saying something about how it wasn't my place to say if my daughter could get more of her food that she made.

But she made it with the purpose of them eating it...

I don't get it.

Now I do somewhat agree with that, and might be the A-hole because of that. Looking back I'm thinking maybe I should have asked?

Idk. In my family when we did this it's always something like:

"There is more of *food*?" "Yes, you want more?" "Yes." "Sure" / "Can I have more of *food*?" "Sure"

Doesn't matter if you had one, two or three plates. If there is still food, you can have it.

My daughter ended up not getting another plate,

Can I slap the sister?

and the vibe was awkward now so we just decided to go. Before we left out the door my sister stopped me and told me I should've taught my daughter manners

I beg your finest pardon?!

She's not the one that needs to learn manners.

and how it isn't right to get more than 1 plate at someone else's house.

Since when?

Also I highly doubt that she was the only one that got a 2nd plate.

I told my sister she was being ridiculous and somehow our voices got loud enough where my mom started to hear us in the small corner, she came over and started telling me she agreed with my sister

Fuck both of them.

and it was rude for my daughter to eat that many plates.

No, it wasn't.

I started to get fed up when they began telling me I wasn't teaching her proper manners, so I left. Then of course they began texting my phone saying how it was rude to leave in the middle of our conversation. I don't think I was the A-hole at all for leaving because I wasn't going to stay in a place where I felt disrespected. But i'm not sure about the plate thing.

So am I the A-hole for assuming my daughter could get another plate?

NTA. Your sister made a problem when there wasn't one.

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