What's the point of looking for someone who has similar interests?
Isn't there a science that match.com has figured out with regards to pairing people based on certain criteria like personality traits and interests?
I hear all the time 1 in 4 relationships today are started through this dating site and, well yeah, it makes sense because with the internet today IT IS POSSIBLE to meet your partner through online dating.
But I always thought love was something that came out of nowhere and shocked your core. I thought love was the result of a teeny tiny spark that became ever-growing flames. Not something you clicked around, or swiped right for.
My partner has
very little
in common
with me.
I think common interests are important but I don't think we really know what it is we want when it comes to a partner. We think light eyes, dark hair, tall, broad shoulders. Or thin and blonde with dark eyes and a beautiful chest.
Don't we want the things we think we like? Of course we do.
But when it comes down to finding our match - the one person who compliments all that we are and compensates for all we are not, common interests are typically few and far between.
It's not because we don't know what we like. We know what makes our heads turn and gets us going but to say that these preferences are compatible with who we are is not necessarily right.
When I change out of the clothes I'm wearing, for example to put on pajamas, I am usually throwing the old clothes into the laundry hamper or folding them into a drawer. My partner however likes to fold his clothes and place them in different corners around the bedroom. When I make him aware that I've noticed his clothes are on the floor he looks at me, usually laughing, and says,
"But they're folded. They're good there."
And what do I do?
I laugh too.
I love you in the early morning when you have eye shits still
I love you when you're choking on your toothbrush AND IT ANNOYS ME
I love the way you kiss my head and always manage to find the same spot
I love how many times I can hear your heart beat in a minute
And I love using your belly as a pillow.
I love how many things we do together, it's never boring
I love that you will eat anything I cook for you
And tell me it's delicious.
I love your silly smile and how much you like nature's medicine
I love when you grab my butt out of nowhere
And when you text me mid-day,
'Thinking of you'
I love knowing you're mine
I love being your girl
And at the end of a long day with whoever we're coming home to each other.
