AmarBail

Hello readers

I know my readers will be divided between the two female leads, each with their own strong supporters. Some will question why Rumaisa must choose Zaviyar, or why Mehrunisa is even part of their lives. Others will argue that Mehrunisa has endured so much, while Rumaisa seems to get everything and anyone she wants.

Then there will be those who oppose polygamy, arguing that she doesn't need to be with anyone and should live independently. They'll say she should leave him because she's not being treated with the respect she deserves.

So, as you read, I ask that you try to understand  both characters individually. I'm not making one character negative to justify the other. I'm simply writing each character as they are.

When I write Rumaisa, I put my heart into her character, ensuring she receives justice and stands out as a lead, with everything working out in her favor. And when I write Mehrunisa, I give her the same attention, portraying her as the main lead deserving of all sympathy, justice, and ultimately the hero.

This is my mindset as I write: I want both characters to be understood and loved for who they are. Each is written with the same depth and complexity, not based on what my readers think should happen or what they would do in their place, but as fully realized individuals with their own desires and struggles.

That's why Alia continues to live with Mustafa as if nothing has happened between them, even though so much has. Wives often don't leave, not because they lack financial independence, but because they never truly wanted to leave. It's not necessarily about a lack of respect, although I believe that's a significant reason why some might choose not to stay.

If a wife gets what she wants and is respected in the way she deserves, where no one sees her as less than the other, she may choose to stay in a polygamous relationship. A major reason is that by divorcing, her value might be diminished in society, and she may not receive the respect she believes she would by staying.

Yes, a woman often doesn't receive the same respect if the other wife has children and she doesn't, or if one is valued more in society. If the husband treats one wife as a responsibility or stays to avoid being seen as the bad person who fell for another woman, it complicates things. Sometimes, a husband might justify wanting both wives by saying that destiny chose for him, claiming he never truly got what he wanted from the first wife but sees it all in the second, so he convinces himself that having both is somehow fair.

If the reason for marrying the other woman was truly out of necessity, then the story should reflect that. The "majbori" (obligation) shouldn't suddenly turn into his source of peace and happiness, where he loves her more and starts blaming the first wife for separating him from his love, treating her like she's disposable.