My Self-Improvement Journey

They Must be Laughing at Me

You're out in public and as soon as you hear laughter, you look around to see if there's something you could be doing wrong.

      You wonder if a pair of underwear got stuck to the hood of your sweater.

     You wonder if there's something on your face.

     You wonder if there's a hole in your pants.

     You're sure that they're laughing at you for some reason.

     Even if they had a clown putting on a show beside them, a part of you would be inclined to believe that they're laughing because you don't have a clown at your table.

     Insecurities have a nasty way of turning everything back on us. We always seem to be at blame.

      You might shrink in your seat to hide, and then fear they'll laugh at your obvious insecurities.

      Or maybe it's just me that assumes I'm the butt of everyone's jokes.

      If you do happen to share any flicker of this same habit, listen closely: It is very unlikely that they are laughing at you.

      How often do you go to the restaurant and laugh at the people sitting next to you?

      How often do you think about strangers in a critical way?

      People really don't think about us as much as our minds make us belief.

      Most people spend their time thinking about what we're in turn thinking about them.

      Strangers don't live to laugh and criticize us. Yes, some people can be unkind, but for the most part, their laughter has nothing to do with you.

      If they are laughing at you? Let them. If anything it paints a true picture of their character.

      Spin the table and laugh at them for having nothing better to do. Or better yet, ignore them completely and let their laughter fade into oblivion.

      Carry on as you normally would. I know it's easier said then done. But the more you force yourself to keep your head up, the more your spine will strengthen and the more it shall refuse to shrink.