What I've Learned from Papajack

#10 THE END

There are two kinds of lovers. One is always thinking about his/her partner's happiness and one is thinking about managing his/her partner's life to become happy himself/herself.  Well, i hope you know what kind of lover you are right now.

This is very simple.  All relationships except the relationship of "Mother and Child" work on the philosophy of "give and take".  The more you give, the more you can take. Husband should help his wife in all the ways he can and Wife should help her husband in all the ways she can.  This is the formula of a happy marriage! 

Men and Women should understand every feelings and how to deal with each other's differences.

 If you find a serious disconnect with your partner, make an honest analysis of the way you speak and behave with him/her. Perhaps you are overly critical of your partner’s habits or expect him/her to conform to too high a standard. Such unnatural expectations on your part may be stressing out your partner as a result of which he/she does not enjoy sharing things with you. Also ask yourself if y
ou have been too busy with work or kids and have been ignoring,  unconsciously, your partner's need for intimacy; as a result of this he/she may have felt hurt and gradually moved away. It is also possible that some kind of insecurity or inadequacy is bothering you which is why another person finds it difficult to engage in a healthy conversation with you; for instance, maybe you are always obsessing about your kids or weight when you are with your partner. Keep in mind that negative vibes, however unintentional, may have caused your partner to gradually pull away emotionally and eventually fall silent. If this is the case, you will need to overcome your inner impulses which are creating a field of repulsion.
If you cannot resolve the issues on your own, discuss matters with a trusted friend or a counselor. Only when you are healthy and positive in your own self, will others, including your partner, be drawn to your company.