Love Me, Love My Quirks

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Dear NinjasLoveTacos,

I understand where you’re coming from, I’m one of the many that can’t stand their laugh (although comparing it to a baby seal being clubbed to death was interesting). But hey, don’t worry about it! The simple fact that you do laugh is amazing! Even so, don’t be ashamed, people say that everybody expresses themselves differently- whether through art, writing, or their facebook statuses. The same thing goes with laughing, nobody is going to laugh the same (and who’s to judge what is a good laugh and what is a bad laugh??) The same thing applies for snowflakes- no two are the same, yet they are all just so beautiful!!!

I don’t think that helped much, so I’ll try again- It’s ok if you sound like a dying baby seal (even though I’m 100% positive it isn’t that bad). If your laugh is really so unusual, it just helps your friends to pick you out from a crowd! (I’m not even lying, that’s what we do for my mom, she laughs so loud that one time my sister and I were looking for her when all of a sudden we heard her laughing at the neighbor’s house three doors down! Gotta love her <3 :D) Honestly, being different is nothing to be ashamed of, after all, if we all laughed the same, the world would be such a boring place!!

Keep Laughing,

Hatter

Dear AllieC101,

It breaks my heart to see you so unhappy with yourself :’(

You say your stomach and thighs are huge. Unfortunately, this is a common side effect of modern day media. Everybody seems to be stick-thin these days. In reality, a lot people just aren’t like that. In fact, having big thighs 40 years ago was considered beautiful- just look at Marilyn Monroe. She was definitely not one of those super skinny models, she had thighs and curves and even a bit of a stomach. She’s even more beautiful for it. (There's a picture of her on the side ->)I’m sure your stomach and thighs aren’t as big as you feel, and if they are, don’t be ashamed of them, embrace them! Decent people love you FOR who you are, not in spite of who you are- you’re beautiful and have no reason to change.

Your hair is burnt from straightening it. Are the burnt parts noticeable or can you tell by touching it? I only ask because if it isn’t like sirens going off with flashing lights saying, ‘look at me, I’m all burnt and stuff’ than I doubt people really notice- except for maybe your bestfriend. I would say that at least once a week you leave your hair natural (for the benefit of your hair). I’m sure it is pretty without all the styling(is it wavy or curly or something?)- or you could experiment with braids until your hair starts to look healthier. Either way, burnt hair doesn’t usually bring a lot of attention unless it is pointed out to people so I think you are safe there.

You say your nose is too rounded up, your eyes are gross and your face looks like it was hit with a brick. Please don’t be too critical of yourself! Rounded noses are so cute- give it a chance! I did a creepy thing and went on your page. Your profile picture is beautiful, you’re beautiful. The same thing with your eyes, they’re blue and clear and pretty- nothing at all to dislike. When you look in the mirror, change your perspective. Instead of looking for things that are wrong with yourself, look for things that are right!

The last thing you said was that you wish you had more cuts and deeper cuts.  Your profile page says you used to cut (again, I’m a creepy person, I know). The key words there are that you “used to” cut. Worn scars are a sign of strength- strength to overcome. Please, do not go back to it! Nobody deserves to feel worthless, nobody is ugly or useless to the point that they don’t deserve to feel good about themselves. Not even you. The key is to surround yourself with people who love you for YOU. If you ever feel down or like you’re going to start cutting again, talk to someone! It doesn’t even have to be a professional, there are so many people here on Wattpad that will be more than willing to talk with you- I’m one of them!!

Stay Strong,

Hatter

Dear Carrots_Kevin_1D,

You have an extreme fear of talking to people!! But that’s ok, there’s nothing wrong with being a wallflower. Afterall, if we had all talkers and no listeners, the world would get nowhere!!  Believe it or not, there are soooo many people with a fear of talking to other peeps. It is totally normal and possible to overcome. I totally hear you on the invisible thing though, it’s easier, less stressful (seriously, who needs that kind of stress?), and can be quite amusing watching from the sidelines.  Even if you’re talking and say something stupid (which I doubt you will, the paragraph you wrote was really fluent and clear) it won’t last forever. People might remember for a day or two but if you shrug it off like “eh, whatevs” they’ll soon forget.  Besides, people say stupid things all the time and even though it might be red-faced embarrassment now, it’s a laugh with a good friend later on.

If your fear is something you want to overcome (which might be a good idea depending on what job you want when you’re older) then there are books and websites that can help you out with that (I’m afraid I’m an awkward one myself and won’t be of a lot of help). Plus, there are public speaking classes (for is your like dead on legit about overcoming this) but what I would do is to go to a store or something with your best friend and start talking to the old people that sit alone on the benches. You are going to feel really uncomfortable at first, but if you can talk to strangers, you can talk to anyone. If you say something stupid, you will never see them again in your life. So, not only will you be improving your social skills, but you’ll also be making an old person really happy :)  After this, you can move on to whoever is standing in the check-out line in front of you and some friendly conversation with the cashier. (WARNING: DON’T TALK TO CREEPY LOOKING STRANGERS AND ALWAYS USE THE BUDDY SYSTEM!!!!)

I hope I’ve helped :)

Be confident,

Hatter

*Inspiring Quote*

“Believe in yourself! Have faith in your abilities! Without a humble but reasonable confidence in your own powers you cannot be successful or happy.”  -Norman Vincent Peale