Thoughts

Judgement

"Never judge a book by its cover."

We have heard this saying a lot of time. The book might be very interesting and would have a lot of things which you could learn. The book might be torn and ripped on the outside but the inside might just be perfect. You may never know unless you open it.

The same applies in our real lives. But do we actually apply this saying?

Well if someone asked me this question, I would say sometimes I don't . Sometimes I just judge a book by its cover. The same applies with the people around me. I might just judge them and make up things about them.

We all judge. We judge on the basis of their appearance, the kind of clothes they are wearing, the way they speak, eat and walk. We even judge their new hair colour.

Anyone may randomly assume things about others. Don't judge. Everybody's experience is differently unique.

People suffer. Everyone faces some difficulty or another. Nobody has a perfect life. We may know what a person is going  through. We may comfort them. But we may not feel the same way like they do. It is easy to judge a person. To be in their shoes is what is difficult.

Judging will waste your time. Instead go ahead and grab the opportunity to learn something new from someone else's experience.

Every person you meet has something special to give you if you are willing to receiving it.

Each encounter helps you in greater self-awareness by illustrating what accept about yourself and what you don't. Your reaction towards other people tells you more information about yourself than about them.

We judge. Not because we find those faults in other people. We judge because those are the faults which we see in ourself. The way we judge is based on self judgement. I am not a skinny girl. So when people call me fat, it hurts. And you know why? It is because I judge myself.

But all we need to do is accept. Accept who you are. Accept the other people around you. Judging will just waste your precious time and ultimately cause you unhappiness.

"You're going to come across people in your life who will say all the right words at all the right times. But in the end, it's always their actions you should judge them by. It's actions, not words, that matter."
                               -Nicholas Sparks, The Rescue.