Me-Time

Types Of Love

I'm trying to play teacher here so please bare with me. Alright, I'm kind of excited showing you this topic. I don't know if this is true but we had this lesson just this second semester in our Group Guidance class, I figured out it would be better if I share it to you guys. Plus, this may even help you if you're planning to write a love story, just saying.

To start with, there are three ingredients for love: Intimacy, Commitment and Passion. From this three, ingredients, we can derive 8 types of love. But before I share to you those things, let me explain this three. 

Intimacy is the warmth toward another person. It's the desire to bond and to connect with them. It is the feeling of closeness and wanting to give and receive emotional support. Passion is somehow an intense romance. It is a sexual desire for another person. Commitment, on the other hand, is to maintain the relationship through good times and bad times. It's sticking with each other and deciding to commit for as long as possible. This is what they call "forever"

1) Liking. It consists only of intimacy which means there is no passion and commitment. It's just friendship with the desire of closeness and emotional warmth. But that's the first stage, right? Liking could somehow develop passion.

2) Infatuation. This is what gets to be defined wrong the most. They say infatuation is a puppy love because it's just a foolish love. Our professor told us that's not exactly what infatuation mean. Infatuation is passion alone and mostly known as "love at first sight". It is also the experience of passionate desire but it doesn't include the desire for commitment or for intimacy.

3) Empty Love. Now, this is something that has commitment alone. No intimacy, no passion, just plain commitment with another person. This usually happens with old couples who just lost their warmness or desire for each other. In other words, commitment is the decision to maintain the relationship or to "love each other" but there is no more passion or intimacy.

4) Romantic Love. This is something most of the people desires to have and this is mostly what I personally think as the most painful love. Romantic love is a combination of intimacy and passion but it doesn't have commitment as an ingredient. Which mean, you're love for each other might be perfect whatsoever but it won't last long. It is usually quoted as "burns brightly then flicks out". I think this is the most common relationship in this world.

5) Fatuous Love. This is the mixture of commitment and passion. In this love, your commitment with each other is based from passion but you don't have time for intimacy. Ladies and gentlemen, the most common type of love in wattpad, insta-romances. Fatuous love is a foolish love actually, it is shallow. Imagine a person saying "I love you" to the love of his life in the first week and both of them were suddenly inseparable. Then we learned, the week after that, they were already married. Pronto!

6) Compassionate Love. This is common between friendships or exes that became your best friends. Wait. Okay, Compassionate love is both commitment and intimacy. In short, no passion or sexual desire allowed. Ever feel friendzoned from your best friend of five years and counting? Yep, this is what she feels toward you. This situation is also common with long term marriages who has their passion lessened but the friendship remains.

7) Consummate Love. This is my favorite type of love, this has all the ingredients. There's intimacy, passion and commitment. All the components are full and complete.

8) Non-Love. This is the opposite of Consummate Love. This has no commitment, no intimacy and no passion with the other person. This is what most of our crushes feel toward us. Yep, they simply don't care.