STANDING TALL AT THE END OF A RELATIONSHIP

WHEN IT'S OVER

Two categories of people are going to be talked about here.

THE ONE WHO SAYS IT'S OVER

THE ONE WHO IS TOLD IT'S OVER

The beginning of the end leads to an end itself and when that time comes, don't be afraid to say it's over but before you pull the cord, make sure it's what you really want. Make sure you are not overreacting by breaking up and make sure you are not under selling yourself by staying. When you tell him it's over, still give him a chance to speak. Most people make the mistake of saying "we're done" and walking out. It doesn't work that way, if he has something to say, let's hear it but if he doesn't, feel free to catwalk away.

Another important thing is that when we say it's over, the other party might get emotional about it and might beg you to reconsider, promising to change. This part is on you. Whether you decide to reconsider or stay firm on your decision of breaking up is up to you. Most people will say follow your heart but i would advice you follow your head and ask yourself the following questions before deciding

1) Will he/she really change?

2) Does he/she deserve a second chance?

3) What if he/she messes up again?

4) Will i be able to cope?

5) Is he/she worth it?

After asking yourself this questions and answering them then you've got a decision to make. Reconsider or walk away for good. What you must know is whatever you decide now is on you.

THE ONE WHO IS TOLD ITS OVER

Most of us fall under this category. Somewhere at the end of our relationships, we were told it's over. Has he or she told you its over? And when he or she told u so, what did you do? Accept it?. Here what we choose to do lies within our emotions. Some people might just accept it probably because they are tired of it or because they feel that's what is best for them. That's okay but if you don't believe so then you are in luck.

WHAT TO DO WHEN YOU DON'T WANT IT TO BE OVER BUT YOU WERE TOLD IT'S OVER

1) Accept your wrongdoings if you did wrong.

2) Beg for reconsideration. Here, you have to throw your pride aside. You can't just tell the other party "please don't do this". You are gonna have to do better than that and mean it from the bottom of your heart.

3) Show how much love you have for the other party by expressing yourself in words. Don't just send him/her a picture of a heart saying i love you. No!, that's so cliché. Words go a long way, express yourself in your own words.

4) Remain kind and caring. Check up on him/her once in a while.

5) This is the hardest part. If he/she still maintain their decision on breaking up, let them know you respect their decision and that you've accepted it but you will always be there for them no matter what.

6) Don't become a bitch or a bastard. Just because they don't wanna reconsider, don't go on a hating spree. Don't become a thorn in their flesh.

7) Always be there for them but don't stalk them!. Most people mistaken what it means to be there for others and become stalkers. Being there for them means being a shoulder for them to cry on, being that friend they can tell anything, being that helper they need when they have nothing.