Stiletto Sisterhood

Original Edition: The Code

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1) Sisters before Misters – never cast aside your Sisters because your significant other 'says so'. Your Sisters will be there when your heart is broken, your soul crushed. Do not betray that love with disloyalty.

2) Chase Dreams Not Boys – Men will always be there, and the right ones will strengthen a Sister support her passions and align with her ambitions, not run counter to them.

3) A Sister will always #WomanUp and handle her shit. She may ask for help, but in the end a Sister must take accountability and responsibility for solving her problems.

4) You must always have your Sister's back. No exceptions. Support your Sisters dreams, goals and ambitions, lending a helping hand where able (either through job referrals, contract opportunities, networking contacts, etc.) or simply being a cheerleader as she dominates :)

5) Value your Sisters' time: if you make plans – keep them and be punctual.

6) Respect your Sisters' right to privacy: what is shared in confidence should stay that way ...even to your significant other.

7) Guys:

• A Sister's 'ex' can't be your 'next' – in all seriousness, why would you ever want them to be? Failed targets, old crushes, or the occasional date that went absolutely nowhere are fair game but it's courteous to check-in with your Sisters and express your interest before pursuing.

• If approached by a 'rando', the use of a fake name/number is totally justifiable. If really persistent, you're from out of town, or grab a Sister (Shay works best) and introduce her as your girl friend.

• If you think a guy is hot – Take charge! Don't toss your hair, cast longing looks and flirty smiles hoping he'll make a move. Sending a drink his way is a great ice-breaker and shows you're aren't out to use him. NOTE: there's no such thing as 'free drinks' when at a bar. This will only make a rando think he owns you for the night. Sisters buy their own drinks. Or at least balance the scales by pitching in for a few rounds.

8) Be a shoulder for strength and support, even in cases of 'I Told You So'. We're all human and bound to make mistakes.

9) If you come together, you leave together – in the event of separation, your Sisters must know a) where you're going and b) with whom (pictures of guy/license plate) to either point police in the right direction should you disappear, or to know where to meet you for body disposal.

10) Treat your Sisters the way you want to be treated – You get back what you put in to your relationships.

11) Don't look for opportunities; make them – Take charge of your life. Blend in by standing out. Be the life of the party. Except if it's a work function then always maintain a respectable two drink max.

12) To err is Human, to Forgive is divine - In the event a Sister crosses a line or breaks the Code, a Sister should always be allowed an opportunity to make amends.

13) Sex:

• Carry extra protection at ALL times. Why trust the guy with something so important?

• Just Say No! No sexting naked pictures or homemade sex videos. Ever!

• One night stands: Never go back to your place. Be gone by sunrise. Stay for breakfast (either eat out or in bed) if he was good and/or you see potential.

• There is no slut shaming in the Sisterhood. There is nothing wrong with consensual, casual sex and a Sister should never have to feel ashamed for hooking up. In the event that commonsense was suspended as a result of alcohol, the default pacification of, "you were drunk so..."will apply.

• Unless you're in a serious relationship, don't fixate on one guy. Back-up your sex life like you would a laptop or cell phone.

14) When a significant other or casual acquaintance inquires about a Sister's whereabouts you know nothing, always. Don't make matters worse by speculating.

15) In the event that a Sister has an event and no date, another Sister must step in and be said date. Sisters never fly solo unless she wants to.

16) Never let a Sister go home with a guy unless she is able to stand of her volition, look you in the eye, and can prove sobriety.

17) When out, Sisters take care of Sisters – everyone pitches in when able. Sisters don't mooch and they don't keep score.

18) A Sister's family member is off limits – including cousins, brothers (step or biological), uncles, etc. without Sister's express permission.

19) Sister's are not 'other women'. Taken men are off-limits, even if not involved with a Sister.

20) When a Sister is serious about someone new, all Sisters are required to give an honest assessment of suitability.

21) Never leave a Sister stranded (especially at night).

22) Shoes say a lot about the man. And etiquette isn't old-fashioned. It's sexy.

23) Sisters never embarrass Sisters. Draw attention to yourself, but on your own terms.

24) If you borrow a Sister's clothing, shoes, accessories, etc. always return said items in near pristine condition. In the event something is lost, ruined or destroyed beyond repair, it is your responsibility to replace the item with something of the Sister's choosing that is of comparable value.

25) Never let a Sister drive drunk (or angry, or angry-drunk). In the event a Sister is too drunk to drive, or too emotional, a Sister must intervene where able. If necessary, the theft of phone and keys is justifiable, or calling a Sister's family member to intervene.

26) Sisters do not let Sisters drunken dial/text a booty call or an Ex. When a Sister is completely trashed, her phone must be confiscated until she returns to a state of sobriety.

27) A drunken Sister will be forgiven of almost anything, no matter how obscene. No exceptions. Tequila, Vodka, Whiskey – pick your poison – can make anyone a total fuckwit. In the event of intoxication – you must hold her hair, stroke her back, have her rehydrated and fed, or put her up at your place if she's too intoxicated to make it home.

28) Full disclosure is an imperative. A Sister must always know what happened in the event of a memory/lapse when he was blacked out. No matter how bad.

29) Maintain safe physical distance from a Sister's significant other, especially when drinking.

30) Promises should always be kept, therefore make them sparingly because you will be held accountable for failure to make good.

31) While all Sisters are women, not all women are Sisters. The way of the Sisters is sacred.

32) When a Sister's life goes up in flames, you stop drop and roll over there ASAP with the ice cream or a gun, which ever the situation calls for.

33) Always respect a Sister's views about anything from politics to relationships to religion. Everyone is entitled to their own opinions. 

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