On being Agender

6. Respect

So

I've had this little friend group at my school for a few months

and 

They all call me the right name but I've never really discussed my gender identity with them

Anyway the one guy in the group is in my studio class and one day I was fixing up my tumblr and he told me to look up tumblr trash

Not wanting to start anything, I did what he asked. We passed a few different looking people and he was making remarks like "gross" or "oh my god" or just laughing

Naturally, I was uncomfortable, but he normally makes me laugh and doesn't seem to hate me for talking too much or anything, so I kind of shrugged it off... but I don't really like talking to him anymore.

Anyway

Later that day I looked up something like "gender master list" 

Admittedly, a few of the genders listed didn't sit right with me at first, but after a chat with bae I realized I was being closed-minded and judgmental.

I, an agender minority who sometimes cries over not being accepting for who I know I am, can also be shitty shit on other people's feelings

Also, that day, I ran across these new (new to me, anyway) terms transage and agefluid

transage meaning someone feels like a different age than they actually are, and agefluid meaning someone feels like their age changes between two or more ages

I don't know if it's real or just a jab at the LGBT+ community, so i'm sorry if I offend anyone

but I was angry at first; i thought it was so stupid to feel an age you can't be

and then my brain kind of stopped

I just said what LGBT+ - phobes say to us.

You can't be _____ because I don't believe in it.

really?

who am i?

...

Ultimately, it doesn't matter if I believe it's real or not, It matters that I respect people and their feelings. 

That's all I really ask of others anyway; I don't expect anyone to ask me how much of me feels masculine every five minutes. I just need people to accept that my birth name isn't actually my name and that I am not a girl.

so, if you feel/know you're something and you respect how I feel, I'll respect how you feel

treat people the way you want to be treated.

not being an asshole 101.

(take notes, guy who shit on everything that wasn't 'normal')