Celibacy : How to be single and well-balanced

Live the eyes of others

Celibacy,scourge or freedom?

Themore we advance and the more I wonder how we can so little approachin the street, on public transport or at work when you still see somany movies where people find happiness by meeting in a Post office.Was it really better before?

Nowadayseverything is controlled and then we are in a hurry, we work a lot orwe actively seek. We are tired by the cold or bad weather, we go outamong friends in pubs where we do not always want to mix with thecrowd of unknown, sipping their glasses by whispering jokes that wecould not understand ... And in the end we live next to each otherwithout sometimes even noticing.

Donot be fooled, if the youth is now on the web, it is not because ofdespair but because it is simpler, that codes have changed and thatat home we take more time that we no longer take over the day,question of habit. If we make new friends more easily on socialnetworks, it is because in our present society we must constantlypromote ourselves and be on top all the time, even if it is only animage. Moreover, to speak to someone, put aside when we are lost, hasbecome a true act of bravery ! Often it is those who have nothing tolose who speak to us spontaneously and monopolize us or areaggressive when we do not want to leave a number, all the more whenwe are a woman, suddenly in doubt we forge a sort of carapace,between the daily hustle and bustle and our demands that have beenadmitted hardened in terms of encounters.

Sowhat is left for the bachelors? The circle of friends, the mostwidespread option, but difficult when all our friends want to get us,it can quickly upset us or vex the suitors, not to mention thelassitude that this type of trap can generate when you are notinformed in advance, as if celibacy was a social problem.

No,it is not a fatality. It is above all a choice of life (conscious ornot) and the open door on independence and freedom. Yes, ourprofessional choices, our travels or the desire to do whatever wewant and to assume ourselves without counting to make generatingdoubtless this state of celibacy, but perhaps it is simply becomemore complicated to share his joys and sorrows with a person whoreally understands us. We no longer take the time to know ourselvesdeeply, the multitude of possibilities of contacts often becomescounterproductive.

Forall that, are we a prisoner of celibacy? I doubt it, because if thereare moments when we are thirsty for tenderness, sex or simply thisfamily screening with children, a house and a dog, leave in theevening on a whim, without blaming moreover by returning in the earlymorning, dancing or flirting with strangers, accepting ourselves aswe are without seeking to please in all circumstances, it is also aluxury not inconsiderable.

Itell you, there is worse than celibacy and the mentalities evolve inspite of some remarks that couples or the old generations address tous with more or less subtlety. Do not forget that in the days of ourparents and grandparents we could not afford all that, there weremore social conventions and women could not work or vote. Thisfreedom in our choices of life must be assumed because the couple isnot necessarily built at twenty years to last a lifetime, we have theopportunity to change our minds, to emancipate ourselves, to beattentive of our needs and this is not given to all the women of theworld, even today.

Soyes, we work to find someone good today, to really share his lifebecause everyone for himself prevails, in this world of overbiddingand the insatiable quest for perfection. Yes before we could countmore often on each other, start the discussion on the train withoutpassing for madmen. Yes before we were not glued to our smartphonesor our tablets, crossing the city in an individualistic bubble.

Butbefore it was necessary to be married to make a success of his life,it was necessary to make beautiful children before 25 years to be inthe blow and the work or the dreams of escape and well it passedafter ... Now we have the chance, ladies, to be able to push ourcareers, to make children after 30 years without being pariahs, totake the time to travel and to live our youth, to have stories thatdo not last without pressure.

Let'sstop taking these models of success published on social networks orany potential jealousy towards couples as cash, because each findsits own half at its own pace, and the better we learn to listen toour own needs and realize our dreams before forming a couple, moresolid and true will be this future relationship. You will avoid thefrustrations or abnegation of your personality and ultimately certaindisputes or breaks, and you will be able to better identify theperson who really corresponds to you over time. In the meantime,raise your shoulders, walk with your head held high and learn to getto know yourself because this is the person you will have to spendyour life with.