my thoughts

relationships.

august 1, 2017
4:03pm
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relationships are important.
i've been in bad relationships in the past, they didn't turn out well but if i wasn't in them i wouldn't know how one really should be. i don't regret anyone i dated because those relationships got me to where i am today. :)
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there are several key components that every relationship should have in order for it to be a long lasting relationship. this includes communication, trust, love, loyalty, patience, and respect. there are more components but i'm just gonna focus on those 6 because i don't wanna go on.. haha
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-communication-

every relationship should have communication because you can work out your differences with each other and are able to talk about whatever you want with one another. this is super important because if you don't communicate then how is the other person gonna know what's going on? they can't read your mind, so you have to explain and talk it out in order for them to understand. communication is also a way of connecting, because the other person could feel the same way but you wouldn't know if you didn't communicate.
you might end up arguing when you're trying to communicate something but they might not understand what you're saying or just disagree. its okay to disagree in relationships, you aren't the same, but it's good to respect the other persons point of view too. try understanding where they're coming from and work it out from there.
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-trust-

trust is needed in a relationship, this is very important. if you don't trust your partner, then it's not really a relationship, or at least not a good one. you're supposed to be able to rely on your partner and feel safe with them. trust could take some time to build depending on what you've been through and the other person. you have to realize that your new partner isn't your old one. so you cant assume that they're going to be like your old partner, that isn't fair to them. its important to get to a point where you trust each other with anything and everything.
trusting someone is a decision you make.
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-love-

love is an emotion and is something between two people. its hard to explain what love is because there are so many meanings.
love could mean that you would sacrifice anything for someone. it could mean that you deeply care about them and would do anything for them.
its important to have this kind of connection in a relationship because its what keeps it alive. loving someone is an amazing, indescribable feeling that everyone deserves to experience.
true love is rare.
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-loyalty-

loyalty and trust are similar.
loyal is staying with someone or being devoted to. you have to trust someone to be loyal, meaning they wont cheat or leave you for someone else.
i hate cheating, it's probably one of the worst things you could do in a relationship to someone. i'm highly against it, please don't to this to someone.. it hurts so bad.
i haven't been cheated on but i can imagine what it's like and put myself in someone else's situation. it causes a lot of pain.
being loyal can show that you're serious about the relationship and not just in it to get something out of the other person or take advantage of them.
loyalty shows that you care about your partner enough to want to be with them.
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-respect-

people deserve to be respected in relationships. everyone has their own opinion and nobody should try changing how another person sees it.
respecting someone is valuing them as a person and supporting them. relationships should be full of support and value for one another, thats what makes them so great. you can count on someone to be there for you and know they'll respect what you're doing (depends on situation).
you also need to have respect for yourself and know how to treat yourself right before you do the same for someone else. self respect is key for confidence and maintaining healthy relationships.
you have to give respect in order to receive it.
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thank you for reading this, i know this one was a bit longer than the others but this is an important topic that i know i needed to cover. i hope i helped you! :) more pages to come..

love, m