My Daily Blog

To The Parents

8:13 Tuesday, 2017  October 10

Let me start with this very argument starting statement. Parents or anyone for that matter should not tell their children whether or not they decide to wear makeup and or, do their hair. Now parents, before you come after me with the argument of. "Just a little mascara or eyeliner every day to brighten the eyes," or  "It's not changing who you are in any way it's simply  taking what you've got and bringing more attention to it," or even the very frustrating "Its hygiene and taking pride in your appearance," Let me say this. YES. All these things are true, but let me bring this to your attention with the example that is actually making me write this.   

I have a very close friend to me. Her mother is a wonderful, beautiful woman. They are very close to me and my family. This friend of mine has spent the past 4 days at my house and her mother came today and a conversation that began like this happened. 

"If I had known you hadn't had brought you makeup I would have brought it to you," 

"I wouldn't have worn it,"

"Well, you need to do either your hair or eyeliner every day you look like you just woke up."

See? A very innocent conversation. A beautiful mother telling her equally beautiful daughter a small piece of advice. But, here is the thing. This is a RULE she HAS to do either her makeup of hair every day despite if she's leaving the house or not. Right then in my head, that very strong opinion side of my brain snapped. 

"That's not fair," 

I but into a place that is none of my business. Parents you were once teenagers. Every little thing upset you and you have to realize that these emotions can't be wiped away with the excuse or "hormones" because yes, the hormones are making the problem a big deal, but that doesn't mean that it isn't something that bothers us. We just can't calmly express it. In my head, at that moment I felt that the mom had upset her daughter, although she didn't show a thing. I was right. The moment the mom left the room, my friend turns to me and says something like "Nice to know one of the first things my mom does after not seeing her daughter for 5 days is call me ugly,"

I know for a fact that the mom was in no way trying to call her daughter ugly because I've had similar experiences with my very own mother. But, that is how it is interpreted. So here is my point, why this is such a big deal. This society is messed up and cruel. It takes guts to be different. We get judged by every little thing we do and there is nothing we can do about it. If your daughter is confident enough to decide to go out into a place like that without desiring to change their appearance to avoid being judged. Let them. You of all people should be the break from society, not contributing to it. Yes, a parents job is to protect their child, but what you don't understand is that is the biggest protection you can give them. It gives them confidence, and your support there is no bigger thing a teenage girl desires. 

But, who knows I might be the only one who feels this way.