Girl Talk : Vol. 1

Let Your Man Cheat In Peace.

So today I was watching marriage bootcamp and I seen a little clip of what everyone was trying to work on. 
What stuck out to me most was Peter and Amina also JJ And Julia ( however you spell her name ) and what was so sad was that yes everyone has two totally different sides to their story and then there is the truth. We as viewers may really never know the honest to God truth. From watching and actually seeing women who have to go through these unfortunate problems with their lovers / spouse it hurts a lot to watch a woman suffer in love and with a man she loves.
The question I ask myself everyday is " Why do men , drag us into a relationship knowing they aren't innocent and know that they still have feelings for another woman or aren't really ready to settle down so they tell us that they are even though they aren't just to fuck around on us and lie to us ? " I found my answer.  It's because some men want their cake and eat it too. How is that fair ? It's not. Why is ok or expected of us to always sweep it under the rug and forgive them so many times when they cheat on us ? Why do we as women forgive them ? Why do we forgive them after they broke our hearts and most of all broke our trust ? Then they beg us to forgive them , blow us up with calls and text messages singing the same old song about how they are going to treat us right and how they won't hurt us and how they won't break our hearts anymore and they'll do anything to fight for us. Why ?! And what pisses me off is when we try and then we get into a verbal altercation/ argument and we bring up that they did cheat on us in some way or hurt us , they feel like they can argue back and defend why they did so! Excuse me ? You cheated on me ! I didn't cheat on you. I was fully honest and committed and you cheated on me ! You did that ! But they feel as if it's ok that they can defend their reasoning.  My question to men is : why didn't you communicate with your woman before cheating on her ? What made you cheat ? Why would you go to that extreme when sooner or later I was going to find out in someway and some how ? Why ? When I was the innocent one. I was the victim.  You hurt me. You cheated on me.  You broke commitment when you decided to give another woman a piece of you that you told me no other woman would ever have or be able to get because you made it seem like you were " untouchable " but you fucking lied. Men think we are supposed to forgive and forget so easily. Now , I don't believe a woman should ever stay with a man y'all go and cheats on her at all. I don't care if it was a one time thing. Why ? Because what man won't do , another man will do. There are men out here in this world who will drink champagne and eat cupcakes out of your asshole if you asked them too. Laughable but it's the truth. I've seen men who have given their women the absolute world. Not because they wanted them too but because they fucking deserve it and they know they have a good woman on their side! They just knew.

" You never know what you have until it's gone. "

Why is that ? I can't come up with the answer for that to save my fucking life.  Why do we have to be gone to know what you have ? Why is that ? What's the fucking point of even being here in your life if you don't know what you have while it's right in front of you ? That's the stupidest shit I've ever heard.  I hate that fucking saying. I hate it so fucking much! Dealing with any woman is a privilege. Why? Because we don't owe men shit. To be so fucking honest. We don't owe men shit. Not a smile. Not a glance. Not even a fucking hello.  We don't owe y'all shit. But , as soon as we give you some type of attention and put some effort , that's when they want to start acting up and getting comfortable. Huh ? What ? We can go back to being that same stuff ass bitch we was when you were begging for our fucking attention and begging to cuff us. But we didn't. But here's another thing I need my beautiful women to stop doing.  If you know you're not going to leave your man after he fucks up once or however many times it has been , then stop your investigation. Stop looking through his phone , stop checking his likes on Instagram. Stop telling your friends that you're done with his no good ass when you know deep down inside you're not done. If you aren't willing to walk away but you have time to defend him and why he cheats , then let your man cheat in peace if you aren't willing to walk away but you want to cry , tell the world and argue with him all the time. Let your man cheat in peace if you know you aren't going to walk away. Continue to be a doormat because at the end of the day what you allow , will continue ! So if you feel worthless or less than what you really are , he / she will continue to treat you as such!

Know your worth.