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How To #7 - Become Best Friends With Senpai

How to Become Best Friends With Senpai

The best way to get a romantic relationship with your Senpai, is to become their friend first. It can be hard talking in front of the person you like, especially if you're shy or nervous, but luckily this little guide is here to help you. Or maybe you're reading this article because you've learned that you can't have your crush for whatever reason, and you're going to try to follow path B, that is, to try to become friends with him/her.

Steps

1
Don't be shy! Just run up to them and say hi, then ask them if they want to sit with you at lunch, or something similar. Don't flirt with them, though. They may already be in a relationship; you never know. You're aiming to get to know them as a friend, not a romantic partner. If you can't come up with the courage to just walk up to him then pretend you are doing something for class and you need to talk to them about the homework or lesson. You could try telling them you have to complete a class survey, which can be a really good way to find some information about the person, though it can be kind of risky (if they find out there is really no assignment).

2
Talk about a subject they like, preferably not about school. While this may work in emergency situations (long awkward silences), it doesn't give the impression that you want to know them as a person. Ask questions! Get to know them! Find out if you really do like him/her after all, or if the crush is only skin-deep.

3
Ask for help on your homework. If you don't get something, call him or text him and ask for help. This will show that you think they are intelligent. If you think you have lots of trust built up, ask them to come over to your house and explain something to you.

4
Over time, gain their trust by trusting them in return. Tell him/her some of your secrets, invite to places (as friends), and just do things you normally do with your friends.

5
Be yourself. You don't need to fake anything! You're just trying to get them as a friend.

6
Take an interest in their life. Buy them cute gifts, see their games (if they're in sports) or concerts, and just visit them occasionally.

7
Don't talk about personal stuff, such as ex-boyfriends or ex-girlfriends. It might make them feel uncomfortable.

8
Don't dive in too fast or your crush will know you like them (Unless you want them to know). And don't gush about feelings or problems, they'll start to think you are over-excited.

Tips

Get to know their friends too! A good connection between you and your crushes friend can ultimately bring all of you closer.

Warnings

When you and them are good friends, do not ask them out straight away. This will make them feel used and like you used friendship to get to them. Relax, give them a little time. Love is about patience and understanding.
This is a great technique to use, but don't try to be their absolute best friend. Most people don't enjoy dating one of their best friends, because they are too close, and asking is awkward. So just get close enough to being friends, but not being best friends. Dating could ruin the friendship entirely, or make it the best friendship you've ever had.
And as some people aren't allowed to get a boyfriend, just be their friend, and if they do like you back, either go out secretly, or tell them straight up that you think it would be best to just stay friends for a while until you're confident enough.