My Public Diary

Online Friends

June 5th, 2014

Meeting new people has always been hard for me considering that I'm shy. I have been making friends online for I don't know how long. It started off my senior year in high school because I was homeschooled online. I started adding people on Facebook who went to the same school as me.

Tyler was the first person I met in person who I had added online. He became my best friend and we actually dated for a little while. My mom at the time didn't like the idea of meeting people online. She thought it was dangerous and that the person may not be who they said they are. After meeting tyler she became more open to the idea. She loved Tyler and he was who he said he was. We are no longer dating but he still is one of my friends.

I have meet many people from online since that first time 2 years ago. I have only ever had two not so great experience.

The first one was with a guy named Josh. Now Josh was who he said he was but he failed to mention some things about himself. About 1 hour before he was supposed to come over he told me that he "forgot" to tell me that he had cerebral palsy. Now yes I was mad. I wasn't mad that he had it but I was mad that he didn't say anything about it. I felt lied to because there is no way he just "forgot" that he had a medical condition.

The second person was actually recently. I started talking to him in October 2013. He lived 3 hours away and I really started to like him. He seemed perfect. About a month after talking he came to stay the weekend at my house. He was who he said he was and still seemed perfect. We started dating and I missed him a lot when he left. After that his personality completely changed. He became a very controlling and jealous person. He would have me take pictures to show him what I was wearing before I left the house. If he didn't approve he would tell me to change. The other thing he did was would have me video tape my house every day to prove that there wasn't any guys there. This became exhausting so we decided it was best for him to move to my town. He said once he moved he would trust me more because he could see I wasn't cheating on him.

So in December 2013 he moved to my town and we got an apartment together. Our relationship was still rocky and seem to have gotten worse. I ended up paying close to 3,000 dollars towards the apartment and bills when we didn't contribute at all. His jealousy got worse and he started telling me who I could and couldn't talk to. I wasn't allowed having a phone anymore either. I wasn't allowed around my family or friends. He would throw away my clothes because he didn't like other people looking at me.

In February 2014 we ended up breaking up. I honestly felt relieved to move back home and not deal with his controlling habits anymore.

I learned out of that experience to not date guys that I met from online.

Now to the good experiences. I have had so many of those. One sticks out the most though.

It was August 2013 and I had a twitter that I was always posting about music on. I ended up getting followers who also listened to the same music as me. This girl named shannon was just as obsessed with Jared Evan and Hoodie Allen as me. We began tweeting each other and got super excited when Hoodie announced that he was going on tour. Shannon and I both lived in Ohio and we were sad to find out that he wasn't coming to Ohio.

We both knew that we did not want to miss the chance of seeing him in concert. So we started researching and seeing which show was closest to us. The show we decided to go to was in Buffalo,NY which was 4 hours away from us. It was on October 19th and as the day got closer we got more excited.

My family and friends thought I was crazy to be planning to travel so far away with a girl I never met. When the day came she picked me up at 7am and off to New York we went. The ride at first was sort of awkward but it was fine.

The drive was boring there was grape vineyards everywhere. We stopped at one because there was a pink elephant and we wanted a picture with it. The trip took what seemed like ages but we pasted the time rapping along to Hoodie Allen's music.

We finally arrived at about 2pm. The concert wasn't till like 8pm so we stood in line with the other 10 or so people that was already there. We ended up becoming friends with the girl behind us. She was also friend Ohio and she took a greyhound bus there. We decided to offer her a ride home since we would be passing her town anyways.

Shannon and I got to go into the concert at 5pm because she once meet and great passes. Meeting Hoodie was the best and most embarrassing moment ever. It was raining that day so I was soaking wet from waiting 3 hours in the rain. But it would do it all over again. We ended up being first row & hoodie was amazing. I went home that night so worn out from jumping up and down. I also lost my voice because I was singing so loud.

I plan to find more concert buddies on twitter and go on more road trips. Simply because that was the best night of my life going with Shannon. I'm so glad that I didn't let anyone talk me out of going.

If you have the opportunity to meet someone from online I would definitely tell you to go for it. The person you meet could end up being one of your best friends.