LGBTQ+ Stuff

That's Right! More Gender Stuff!

Ok, so it's been awhile since I have updated this and I'm very sorry. School started and I practically fell in a ditch. Anyway, I have some more information to give you guys on genders! But before I start, I would like to tell you something about me that's gender-related. So I recently I figured out that I'm not as cisgender as I thought I was. Well, to be more correct, I finally figured it all out. See, for quite some time now, I haven't felt very female but at the same time, I didn't feel male. I mostly noticed this with my clothing. Of course, to some, it may just be a clothing preference, but on some days I want to wear a dress/skirt but on others, I want to wear plaid jackets, t-shirts, and jeans. I believe this is due to some days I feel way more masculine than other days. With some research, as I normally do, I found a new term known as demigirl (demiwoman/demifemale). This is when you are mostly feminine but on some days you're more masculine than others. Now, this doesn't completely apply to me so I'm gonna go with non-binary but this is the best way to explain it.

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So let's move on and get started with gender stuff. This is mainly for transgender people just looking for some help or trans people who are trying to transition. Also, btw, I'm in a spectrum club at my high school and we meet every Thursday so I'll try to post new info over the weekends but no promises. So let's start!

Types of Transitioning

So there are two types of transitioning; social transition and medical transition. Social transition is whenever someone chooses to go by a certain name, changes pronouns and expresses gender through clothing, hair, etc. Medical transition is whenever goes through surgery or uses hormones to physically change themselves.

Social Transition

Remember, there is no way to look trans and if you hadn't noticed, there are plenty of trans people out there in the world who you wouldn't even know are trans. Sometimes it can be confusing to know someone's gender but usually (I repeat, USUALLY) they wouldn't be offended if you ask. Now some people are cisgender and get very offended but those are the people who just need to take a chill pill and relax.

If you're having trouble deciding on your style, it won't hurt to go around and try out a few things. If you wanna wear skin-tight skinny jeans, go right ahead. If you don't like that and wanna try going looser, go right ahead. Ain't nobody stoppin' ya!! I am currently trying to get ahold of some more masculine clothes and some more dresses and skirts so I can fully express myself. But if you're having a hard time, I may be some help. You can message me with some information about you and then I can spam you images of possible clothing/hairstyles that you wish to look through.

If you're in school, you may be able to talk to the school and ask them to change your name to your preferred name. If not, you can simply ask your teachers to call you by that name. Now, legally, it just depends on where you live. In some places, you have to have gone through medical surgery in order to legally change your gender from male to female or vice versa.

Medical Transition

When it comes to medically transitioning, this ranges from hormones to top/bottom surgery. There are many things in between those that you can do but those are like the two biggest ones that people always think of. And I can't really help too much in this situation just because I don't really know a lot about it but I can tell you one thing. Even if you are trans or if you aren't, never ask someone if they've gotten "the surgery". This is kinda rude. Just try to avoid it and maybe ask what all they've done (name, pronouns, hormones, etc.)

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Ok so this was a bit of a longer chapter but before I end it, time for the story of this chapter!

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It all started five years ago. My sister had come out as bi to my parents and that encouraged me to do some research. Two years later I realized " Hey I'm gay. I like girls." and as soon as realized this I went to my friend (Who I had a crush on) and told them. They accepted this and they asked me who I had a crush on. I didn't want to tell them, but I had to. After a while of playing "Guess who Jordan's Crush is" She figured out I liked her. Then, she told me she was bi and my face just lit up, I was so happy. The day I came out (that afternoon) to my parents was, less than exciting. I only came out to my mom but back then I hardly knew anything about coming out so I just told her, " Hey I have a girlfriend and I'm gay." That was a mistake. She then told me to take my time and think about it. I went to my sister a couple weeks later and found out that my mom was talking about me behind my back and had told my sister, and i'm quoting, "She's not gay." This broke my heart. I was thinking about that last year during art and one kid at my table said "your gay." to another kid and I went, "Do you have problem with gay people?" He said " No, are you gay?" I thought about for 2 seconds and then said, " Yes, yes I am." and they're faces were just blank. It was hilarious. He started asking me questions but I only remember one and it was, " Are lesbians depressed?" and I was like "Whyyyyyy?" That's the end of that story but how weird is that? Anyways thanks for reading.

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That's all for now folks! Goodbye!