The reason why I hated labels so much as a kid, and then as a teenager was because I was a little bit like my mom growing up and a bit (a lot more) like my dad. That caused me some problems while I was trying to figure out who I was. There'd come a time where I wouldn't go out for weeks followed by other weeks where I'm such a social butterfly. I had anger management issues, yet an excessively calm mindset. Do you know what I mean? I hope you do, I'd hate to think I'm the only one.
Only now I'm beginning to understand that it's okay to be both: It's okay to let me be angry and also to embrace the occasional *chill* person I am; to sometimes want nothing else than to be alone and then maybe, to enjoy some company; to sometimes be this mysterious, private person but to spill every little detail about my life once in a while; to always try be completely honest and transparent, yet still not to hate myself for the teeny-tiny lies that slipped through. It's okay to talk too much and it's okay not to say a word.
I guess what I'm saying is, it's okay to be the both of two opposite things but that still doesn't tell us anything in favor of labels; on the contrary, all I've said so far sounds like I'm saying labels are unnecessary. But what I actually mean is that they can be gray, they can be impermanent, they can change; yet they can be needed.
They are needed, aren't they? Don't we all want to feel like we're a part of something, like we actually belong? It's on Maslow's pyramid and it's in our DNA. I guess that's what labels do. They help us with the process of self-discovery and with finding others like us. In our internal voids, we need others like us. How amazing does it feel when you're good at something and with others who are also good at it! How great does it feel to be able to share something like this! Like superheroes...? What do you think?
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SpiritualI wonder how many of those people who pass by on the street are having thoughts that they simply cannot put into words. Words are not always enough, but they're my favorite to express myself. It would mean the world to me if you would be kind enoug...
