Ways to Charm a Girl

Get to Know Her

•Guys! you all know this! You're not stupid! You cannot, I repeat: you cannot have a best friend or a friend at all if you do not even know the person!

So first of all you need to get to know her really well.

Always remember the five most important things in a girl-guy friendship:

1. Treat her the same as your guy friends, but NOT like "one of the guys" Yes, there is a difference! While you want to treat your girl friend like any of your other friends so that she does not feel awkward, you also do not want to treat her as if she were a guy. Mainly, because she is not one. Of course, if she were your best friend, you would want to treat her slightly differently because she is a closer friend than your other friends.

2. Talk normally This does not mean that you should not use a silly voice when you talk; well, you shouldn't unless you two are goofing around but that is not what I mean by "talk normally". I mean you should be open and feel free to talk about anything! Whether it be personal subjects or common things like talking about the weather, you should not feel awkward speaking or stutter! Now, of course, while you want to be able to talk about just about everything, you also do you want to give too much information! Don't say things that will make the conversation too awkward.

•3. Conversation should go two ways This goes for anyone in any friendship at any time! You should never be the one always talking or always listening! Sometimes you should start the conversation and sometimes your friend should! If they tell you something or ask you question you comment or answer and then it is your turn to tell something or ask a question. Another polite thing to do is if they ask you something about yourself, you should ask the same about them in return!

4. Don't always be there Now of course I obviously do not mean that you should make friends with a girl and then move away or decide not to be there for her when she needs to ask you a question or when she needs help with a problem. What I mean, is that you should not constantly be everywhere she goes! This is an obvious rule I mean who wants to be practically stalked all the time! You do not need to know where she is at every moment of the day the same goes for her! She does not need to know where you are at either! So texting her an update every five seconds about where you are or what you're doing will just be annoying to her.

5. Be specific Be sure your girl friend knows exactly how close you are to her. Be sure she knows that you are friends, and only friends and that that is how you want it to be! Don't ever try to confuse her because this will just lead you to other problems. Make your intentions clear and she should also try to be honest and clear with you. This rule also includes remembering that you were the one who choose to be friends and if your girl friend starts dating a guy, remembering that you're only friends! You should be happy for her and try to support her through this. You made the decision to be friends and thus she has a right to date if she so chooses!

•Tell her you wanna be friends and ask for her number. Hopefully she will give it to you!

•If you are always there for her she will in turn learn to be there for you. You will need to learn support each other and communicate with each other really well just as you would with any other friend. Talking the same things over and over again will only bore your girlfriend and you will also bore yourself. Try to talk topics that are interesting and unique. If you make an effort to become close friends you will be rewarded in the end!

Friendships take a long time to build! And I know everyone says this so its tiring to hear over and over again, but it is true! While some friendships me blossom over a week or two it is unusual and so your friendship, no matter who it is with, will need a lot of hard work put into it! The more you talk to and get to know each other, the closer you will be and the less awkward silences there will be in your conversation! Just remember that if there is ever a problem between you two, you should never be mad at each other for a very long time! Always try and work it out and NEVER assume the worst of the other person!

•This is all I can give you on the friendship part, sadly. But if you have any questions, feel free to ask! if you are trying to move your friendship along and make it more, just continue reading. If not, and you are satisfied being friends, I wish you good luck! And I hope you have a wonderful best girl friend! Thanks SO much for reading!

Love Always,

Rebekah