Ways to Charm a Girl

Taking The Next Step

The next step? Flirting. Really? Yes. I understand that this is a big step but it is something you will need to learn to do properly.

How much is too much? People usually mess this kind of thing up! Won't I? This is gonna be so hard! Do you really expect me to know what to do? Because I have no idea what to do!!!

Hold those thoughts! I will get to them, I promise! That's what I'm here for: to help you! I don't want to worry you so take a deep breath...

Yes! Flirting does have problems. Lots actually! Many people either flirt too much, or too little. Way too obviously, or not obviously enough! Awkwardly, because they have no idea what they're doing or...actually, let's stop there for just a minute. Yes, you should know exactly what you are going to do! Surprisingly, most people either do not think about this at all or they think about it all too much! You should always try to plan out what you are going to do before you do it! This goes for everything, flirting included!

Keep that thought in mind, okay?

Anyway, what was I saying before? Oh yeah! Either people underestimate or overestimate. They just don't have an equal balance when it comes to flirting and so it ends up going wrong most of the time. Now bring that previous thought back. This is why I am going to help you plan out not only what ways you will be flirting but also how much! This is very important and you never want to under think something like this.

Now of course you DO NOT want to totally plan out everything you do because you will start to look and act mechanical! But you do want to have a general idea in your mind of what you're going for!

I have taken the time to ask 30, yes really, 30 different girls to give me a short list of ways they prefer guys use to flirt or the most obvious ways. I took all that time and trouble asking JUST FOR YOU because I really care that much! I then took an average on that list and compiled all of the information into, I must say, a MUCH shorter and easier to understand list for you guys! Yeah, I know girls can talk forever and add in a bunch of extra unneeded details which is actually what I'm doing right now so sorry guys! But I just had to mention that...

To get you started I have put together a basic list for you to follow easily. Hopefully this is helpful enough for starters! Once you get a feel for "good" flirting, you will start being able to decide how you should flirt and the proper time to do it on your own! Until then I will help you so don't worry.

There are many different methods of flirting. There are some methods you can use over and over again. Just not all at once, you understand? This is because they are very generic and so they will not be awkward if you try and repeat them again every once in a while. There are also some gestures that you will only want to use once because they are very unique/specific things that will only be meaningful one time and may be awkward if you try to do them again. With the more meaningful gestures you want to be very careful when and how you use them because you will not be able to repeat them again. Well, of course you COULD but as I said, it might be awkward and it most certainly will not be as meaningful the second time around!

Before we go any further, I do want to mention something that you should make a note of. I do not believe that "real dating" is appropriate until age 20. Of course, I cannot force you to abide by this thought because I am not your parents and I am not trying to be! But, do know this: during your teenage years dating, I think, is fine. But ONLY fun/"friendly dating" or what one might call "pre-dating". Just know that this is what I think personally and it is what I am leading you into through this guide. Now I believe, that "friendly dating" is totally, and I mean totally, different then fake dating! Fake dating is where you say you have a girlfriend/boyfriend and you act up around each other like you are truly dating but you really actually are not taking the time to get to know each other. You just tell everyone that you are "dating" when in fact you are not!

Note that I am simply telling you this because one, it is what I believe, and two, it is good heads up to let you know ahead of time that this guide will not take you through anything more than fun dating which is still calling someone your boyfriend/girlfriend. But you actually get to know each other and really try to do that whenever you hang out. And while you may show some affection for each other, it is true affection, coming from having a relationship built off of a good friendship! Glad we got that clarified!

Now, I want you to take in and fully process and understand everything you just read before you continue on to the next section.

- Rebekah