Khutbah Nouman Ali Khan

On Grief and Patience

1. It's ok to cry and grief. It doesn't mean someone doesn't have patience if they cry. Nabi Yaakub nangis sampai buta ingat tentang Nabi Yusuf... sedangkan masa tu anak yg lain baru hilang..bukan Yusuf. Nabi Yusuf dah lama..tapi sebab ayahnya tak tunjuk kesedihan..tak bermakna dia ok selama tu. Bila dia nangis hari hari, tak bermakna tak sabar dan redha jugak.

2. Being sad and patient is different things. Don't tell people to stop being sad..stop telling about their problem and just talk to Allah. Nabi Yaakub tak luahkan pada family sebab family tak supportive. Kita kena luah pada orang keliling dan ngadu pada Allah. Dua-dua kena ada. We must be supportive to others and listen. Don't keep asking them to be patient. We cannot imagine their feeling..we cannot feel for them. Just listen.

3. Don't loose hope in Allah. Tak kira betapa sedih betapa berat pun dugaan.. yakin dan bersangka baiklah pada Allah. Hanya orang yang tak beriman saja yang akan putus asa.