I would like to share some thoughts, ideas and assumptions that are slowly formed in my mind and finally find people who can understand.
Nothing more, nothing less.
If we are talking about people's behaviour and personality traits, there is one fundamental princple I would like to start with. It is simple rule and it is completely up to you how you can work with it.
"If you really want to know someone, ask him what he thinks about the others."
It is all about psychological projection...
This rule helped me to gain insight into people's thinking and behaviour. But it's not every time as straightforward as it may seems.
You will need to be patient if you have decided to try such a thing. It's a lot about observing behaviour and emotions of others. You must collecting data about people during your observation and keep this rule on mind. It will gradually help you to create picture about them.
Here is an example of situation you are probably familiar with:
Imagine small group of about four or five people have a debate about someone or criticizing something. You can notice that every person have different opinion - different concept of what is reality like. They maybe agree that some thing is generally positive or negative, but that's all. They see various consequences and are afraid of slightly different scenarios or look forward to another kind of aspect of that thing. Perhaps they will even start to arguing little bit between themselves during this conversation...
So, what is actually true? Sensitive person probably realizes that people's views somehow relate to their nature and psychological traits - and principles of psychological projection can say a lot about that.
We often see in others exactly same things which are inside us.
At this point you can start with your own investigation of any person from your surroundings.
I must say that this things are source of entertainment for me. In past I knew a person that regularly said to me that I'm selfish and bumptious. I decided to start observing this kind person and found out that my subject had serious problems with accepting another people's opinions. He often and basically unconsciously skewed what someone have said and maked very impolite attacks on people. This person itself was actually quite selfish and bigheaded - especially under mental pressure. I was slowly identifying these traits in his personality and got better in understanding him.
Great lesson I think.
There are another amazing guestions and facts. If it is interesting for you, you can seek out for more information from different sources - for instance - What does it mean when someone really irritates you? Who is the best mirror for you?
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"So, if I could be a mirror for you - tell me please - what do you see? Is it rather you or me?"
