Boundaries - Arón Piper (DNF)

What is BDSM? (You should read)

«BDSM is a practice that involves various expression procedures, from handcuffed sex, hitting (without being interpreted as violence), clothes, customs and relationship dynamics.

It is not a thing of freaks or weird people. Practitioners study, work, date, are married, in short... they have a normal and ordinary life like yours. They simply have desires and fantasies and don't shy away from carrying them out and putting them into practice. You probably also like to call (or hear) a dirty name to your partner, or give or receive a slap on the butt, pull some hair, get very excited with sexy lingerie, etc... which doesn't make you a weird person and, if you think about it, there are many things when you have sex that are also practiced in BDSM, but are simply less intense and routine.

Some people take pleasure in the pain because there is a greater sensation in the skin, others because they like to test their own limits.

Nevertheless, the body releases endorphins when exposed to pain, so pleasure can be achieved by many.

The acronyms: B/D (Boundage and Discipline), D/S (Domination and Submission), S/M (Sadism and Masochism).

Bondage: it is the art of tying people and the act itself can be for aesthetics, erotic pleasure, restraint or others.

Discipline: the art is to discipline or be disciplined with the achievement of different objectives. The same is allowed, but there is a certain manipulation for the partner to exceed its own limits.

Domination and Submission: the reasons may or may not be sexual and range from humiliating, beating, tying ... to someone who controls their routine, food, clothes, etc ... In short, the relationship implies that there is a person who submits to another.

Sadism: it has nothing to do with the term you use in your daily life. In BDSM we talk about people who practice safe and consensual sex and who can cause pain to their partners, since they feel pleasure in it and are given endorsement to do so.

Masochism: it is the opposite of the above. Here people take pleasure through pain and give consent to it, so don't judge that they are unstable or depressed people.

Other relevant information:

- There is a safety word used when the submissive wants to stop and doesn't feel able to continue, it is usually a random word that nobody would ever say in the room.

- BDSM can never be considered domestic violence, as everything practiced is consensual.

When a contract is made, the limits and rules of each one are established. As in which parts of the body can be marked, one accepts to be suffocated (obviously with a limit) because it is a common fantasy, which practices or role-plays feel comfortable and want to do, among others.»

Taken from the site Sapo.

«Usual Rules and Limits:

A submissive is someone who negotiates; a slave doesn't.

A submissive has limits; a slave has given up all limits except those which his/her owner sets for them.

A submissive obeys and serves by choosing to do so each time and retains her will. A slave initially makes a choice to obey his/her master/mistress at all times and then submits to the will of  his/her master at all times.

A submissive accepts submission, while a slave accepts obedience.

A submissive has retained some rights within the context of the D/s relationship, whereas a slave has given up all rights and becomes, in effect, property.

A submissive is owned, but a slave is possessed.

A slave is not allowed to sit on furniture or wear clothes, and always kneels at his/her owner's feet.

A submissive has a safe-word to end play, while a slave has consented to no-consent.

A slave must be a submissive, but a submissive is not necessarily a slave.

Being a submissive is just a step on the way to the "ultimate" state of submission, which is being a slave.

A slave is more submissive than a "mere" submissive. Submissives are just playing; slaves live the lifestyle.

A submissive has more self-respect than a slave. Slaves are crazy, because who in their right mind would want to be a slave?»

However, these limits vary from person to person, there may be masters or misstresses that acquire limits from dominats. You can be a slave and even then, your master or mistress will authorize you to have a safeword.

The clothes you wear or the places you sit vary from possessor to possessor (case of master / mistress-slave relationship), it is not necessarily in all cases.

Being a slave is not a crazy person or out of her or his mind, they are people who create devotion for another.