Gradually.. Eventually

ACCEPTANCE

Understanding is the first step to acceptance, and only with acceptance can there be recovery

I got to understand that TIME really doesn't heal, it just makes whatever pain easier to bear. Imagine a man involved in an accident and got paralyzed, time doesn't heal that..it's just helps with his ACCEPTANCE of his situation.

Now you see my point?

Yeah you probably didn't see where we were going, I mean we all got goals..though if you had believed more you'd have seen different. I understand that we all got to look out for ourselves as individuals and it's totally fine you went after what's good for you and there was no me in that. As much as it hurts, the feels of being stabbed literally in my chest..knowing the plans I was working towards for us. Now you have to be with someone else, give him everything I adored..it's uncanny to think of cause it was sacred to me and I was ready to have that forever. Now with a lot of clarity about some things, I understand it's not just love that determines it all as you chose to believe..my head and soul is at a right spot forging ahead.

Me letting go doesn't mean that I don't care about you anymore. It's just me realizing that the only person I really have control over is myself, understanding that life is a series of natural and spontaneous changes.

The negative memories come with a cost, as addictive as they feel, once lessons are learnt there is nothing in them of value. The positive memories come as a friend with a picnic basket, they are good and nourishing, supportive and kind. And so I choose to build myself this way, letting the bad ones wander off on their own and encouraging the good ones to blossom and grow. This way I become confident, well balanced and in control of me, able to appreciate each moment as a gift and to see a positive future.

I used to believe holding on and hanging in there are signs of great strength or proving how much the love . However, there are times when it takes much more strength to know when to let go and then do it.

There's nothing I can do, it's no-one's loss as we were both special in our own way..

If we were to ever get back together probably you'd see differently but that doesn't look possible and it's fine cause we both are going to be amazing. What we taught each other, those lessons will build us to be better humans for whoever we end up with and that's a blessing so being with you was blissful and so is going through being without you.

"When something bad happens, you have three choices. You can either let it define you, let it destroy you, or you can let it strengthen you."

Finally accepting this phase has nothing to do with resignation or weakness; it does not mean running away from the struggle. On the contrary, it means accepting it as it comes, accepting the lessons with all the handicaps of heredity, of suffering, of psychological complexes and strength that comes after it all.

"If you don't accept that certain things are out of your control, you'd only lose more control"

REAL ISN'T HOW YOU ARE MADE, IT'S WHAT HAPPENS TO YOU.