Poems and Lessons of My Heart

How Can You Possibly Learn To Love Yourself?

""Learn to love yourself?" 

What does that mean? 

How are we supposed to find something good about ourselves? 

The whole reason we hate ourselves 

Is because we can only see the parts we hate. 

So forcing ourselves to find "good points" feels hollow, 

Like we're making things up.

 It's not like that. 

That's not how it works. 

I think that it's only when someone says they love you that you're able to start loving yourself. 

I think when someone accepts you,

 That's when you start feeling like you can forgive yourself a little 

And start to love yourself." 

-Fruits Basket

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As a person who has gone through years of hating themselves, I know that this is so important. There are many people who tell us to "love ourselves". They think it's simple, that it's even easy. But when you hate yourself, you don't see how you could possibly love yourself. You wonder why people think it's so easy to do because to you, it's not easy because you can only see the bad things about yourself. It truly is only when someone loves and accepts you for who you really are, that you are able to start loving yourself.