Hey! Don't turn a story that your kid is telling you into a lecture! It's not needed, at all!!
All it does is go to your ego, it helps the kid none most of the time, in fact, it actually makes it worse for them. If they're talking about a thing that happened, don't, for the love of all things holy, turn it into a lecture for them! It makes them uncomfortable and not want to tell you any more stories about their life in fear you'll turn it into a life lesson.
And even if there's a lesson to be learned from the lecture in your opinion, keep it simple. Them not telling you about their life is going to lead between secrecy on the child's part and a bad relationship between parent and child, which isn't what you would prefer, I assume.
Sure! Teen years are a time to learn but don't give them a lecture just to teach! Just because they're brave enough to go through teenage years doesn't mean they're brave enough to be under your every fucking word 24/7. You aren't raising a well behaved kid, no kid is 100% well behaved, you're raising a sneaky and sly child who knows how to keep their life a secret from you which isn't healthy for either of you.
It'll likely cause more outbursts from you because they'll only respond with "good" or "like usual" or something else bland when you ask "how was your day?" and it'll cause multiple mental issues for the child. A few including trust issues, anxiety, depression most likely, social anxiety, lack of social life, and more.
Hey, and if your parents did this to you, im sorry, I truly am, but guess what? You're supposed to be trying to make your child's life easier and better than yours. So if you're one of those "stop complaining, I had to walk to school!" or "kids these days are so spoiled with the electronic advancements!" then maybe you shouldn't be a parent because obviously you lack understanding. Yes, I know the being a first-time parent is a learning process but wanting your kid to have a less stressful life than yours, at least a bit, is a no-fucking-brainer you dickweed
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