So hey yall back after a long time off hope yall are doing well and hope yall are holdin up during this virus i love you all and pray for all of those whove been lost to it
Now onto the story
The reason why this is called the unfortunate truth is because its about the truth of the trade world i implore you if you are seeking a job in the trade industry like mechanics and are female i beg you to read this story and learn from my expeirence
Please dont let yourself fall to what i did
For privacy sake ill still be myself but all the names will be changed and the name of the college too
So recently i enrolled in a trades campus called lets make it light avengers trade campus its a nice place and i met some nice people my highschool years havent been as nice to me so i went there with a wall built to prevent people from knowing me but as i eventually got to know people in my class they were all sweet all except one maybe two they were hiding a false face so at first it was like highschool i made friends and eventually trusted them enough to hang out with them so one time i was hanging out with one of the guys (lets call him josh) now josh seemed to be a nice guy and he had a cute froggo named uh diablo (not the frogs real name) i loved him and named him as my son as i do with any of my friends animals its a sign to them that i trust them but josh took my friendship and kindness and thought i liked him now i was still trying to get over the shock of having new amazing supportive friends and not having anxiety anytime i see my friends so i wasnt dealing with josh's "love" to begin with ik mistake on my part but he eventually got into an accident with me in the passanger seat of his car i ended up on codiene for about a month maybe im not sure but for those of you who have been on it or something similar you know once it kicks in youre out of it and tired so i was too tired to deal with him and couldnt fight back because my body was tired of everything and eventually through my no's he saw and heard yes and took advantage of me even if i pulled his hands away, move away and say no hed put his hand back, move closer and do what he wanted to do anyways and eventually i was tired too tired for anything and he thought we were dating that wasnt the case i never said anything was a date, never gave him signs i wanted to date, and never ever stated i wanted to be his girl now my friends lets call the rory, trevor, and steve. Steve was thennice asshole kind of guy so he seemed like an asshole but loved his friends, trevor wss the child of the group so sweet and innocent and rory was the aduly never wanting to have problems. They all saw and knew about what was going on and after i got off of the codiene my mind and body eventually returned to what it wss before except for the fact that whenever josh was near me my mind kept screaming no get him away and eventually i told him not to do what he did he at first didnt listen but eventually did still thinking i wanted to be with him he would trap me in corners, watch my phone, try to get cuddly with me when i made it clear i wasnt interested and didnt want to date him eventually it got to the point where i blocked him and during our winter break josh had tried to talk to me through trevor but trevor told me what josh was trying to do (bless trevors heart) but rory, he was a different story josh had pushed himself into a group with me and rory and i wasnt speaking to josh at this point and rory had wanted me to talk to josh which pissed me off because by this point i was mentally drained, hated being in class at all, hated working on cars which i used to love and hated leaving class alone cause at this point josh had begun trying to get me alone and waited for me after class i had a support system and people who would willingly help me out if needed it so they helped me avoid josh and after rory's comment on me talking to josh i didnt want anything to do with rory and rory eventually ruined his reputation with several people who protected me from josh and left them with few people they knew who would talk to them like one or two (not my doing) now you may say rory was just trying to do the right thing well no remember rory was in my friendgroup and all of them saw and knew about josh's actions all the way until the end even me not feeling safe around josh but by now i had enough and told all of my profs three of them were suppportive and helped me, one of them didnt respond and the last, he shamed me and took the side of josh, who had told him a lie of wanting "closure" well closure and harrassing and waiting for someone after class and actively trying to get them alone are two very different things the prof had called me after class and said all of this while looking in my eyes "you know its not my job to make you safe, but i got you two removed from the group and he cant be near you also dont claim you dont feel safe coming to class because its a serious claim you wouldnt want to get him in trouble and ruin his life would you?" When a student is actively going through what i was at that time do you think they would stop and say yea lets not do anything and talk to the person who had previously overpowered them and wanted to get them alone and away from other people? No theyd be scared to go to class to leave class one of my profs took immediate action and notified student services another offered to protect me and a third said hell keep an eye on josh, it eventually ended with a cease and desist against josh, he cant talk to me,about me or post about me and im grateful for the people who protected me but during that time i felt unsafe, scared had to have people escort me to and from class i felt like a burden and liability to everyone around me like they hated me for josh's actions now josh and that prof have ruined my favourite thing to do, they made it hard to look at that college again, made me scared of even doing anything in that college, made me feel unsafe after so much as putitng one foot on college grounds what took 2 teachers 3 years to build they ruined in a year they made me look at mechanics differently made me fear pursuing this when before college i was seriously hoping to go forward with my furture and left me with a much worse mental state then i had before i went there i now have a mild form of ptsd when it comes to cars i cant drive and i cant sit in the passenger seat of a car i now fear everything, my social anxiety has become worse, i fear meeting new people and even talking to people now dont judge me on my actions or say im lying or making up bs about my mental health once you go through enough your mind eventually gives up and numbs you or makes your fears worse and for me it trippled my fears i cant even watch a lot of videos with people who look even a tiny bit like him without feeling like its hard to breathe or immediately clicking off of the video and i cant ask for help anymore without hearing "you dont want to get them in trouble and ruin their life do you" in the back of my head or fearing theyll dismiss me or say im lying to ruin someones life
For the girls who are looking to be in the trades dont do what i did immediately seek help if you feel uncomfortable and dont let people docto you what josh and that prof did to me and dont do what i did and sit there in silence if anyone ever tells you to not seek further action if someone says to you what my prof said to me and you know in your heart that what they said was wrong let them know because all i said was yes sir and left on the verge of tears and i regret not taking more action
Please you have a voice mine was ignored because of people who wanted to protect or help josh instead of seeing the truth of what he did dont let your voice become drowned out stay strong and have people there you can talk to and show whats going on to
