Just Slightly Introverted

Relationships

Oh yes, relationships are so beautiful. Oh, so sweet, so wonderful and so fulfilling.

For the couple, maybe.

But have you ever experienced slowly watching your friends around you get into relationships and you're the only one left standing?

If you haven't, wow, lucky you. Let me enlighten you on the feeling then:

It sucks.

It literally does.

Because it feels like your friends are slowly abandoning you, one by one. Slowly, they are getting attached. They are finding their significant others. It seems like you've lost your importance to them.

You're sitting there.

You're alone, sad, depressed. Where have all your friends gone? Where is that best friend you could always count on? What happened to "best friends forever"?

Yes, you feel happy for your friends who get into relationships. But at the same time, you can't help hoping they would be single along with you as well. You feel like their partners have stolen them from you.

Not only that, you start to feel envious.

"Why can't I be the one finding my significant other? Why is it so unfair?"

You feel that if only you find your own relationship, you would be less reliant on those friend(s).

But as an introvert, sad to say, it's not as easy as an extrovert to get into a relationship.

As an introvert, we are more reserved.

We're extra picky when it comes to finding the 'right one'. Since it's already a task to find a friend whom we can really feel comfortable with, isn't it 10x harder trying to find a boyfriend/girlfriend of that quality?

Romance dramas, anime, manga, books, movies honestly... don't help at all. For me, witnessing all those mushy sweet scenes make me feel more lonely inside.

I picture my friends going through such fantasies, and yet I'm sitting alone in my room, hoping and waiting for either my friends to come back, OR hoping I find my own relationship.

It's a vicious cycle.

It's impossible to avoid, but here's the thing: it's not impossible to survive it.

I can't tell you everything will be okay. I know hearing words like "You'll find the right one eventually!" or "Just find some new friends." aren't really the most comforting words to hear.

But let me tell you this.

What I can assure you, is that your friends care for you. They may be so worked up with their relationships right now, but believe me, they do treasure you as their friend and would never replace you with anybody else. You will still be the one for them when they need you, and they will be there for you as well!

Especially if your friends are new into the relationship, they're just going through a 'honeymoon' period and are only just revolving around each other. For now. Eventually, they will realise and remember that friends are of equal importance to them as well.

But if they don't and are just 100% invested in their significant other, why care? Spend some quality time with some other friends, or with yourself as well! If they fail to appreciate you, know that it is not your loss. It is theirs. You are always so good to them, they have to realise your value as well.

About being in a relationship, there's no rush. Take it slow, take it easy. As cliché as this sounds, the right one will come at the right time. Rushing into one will only lead to heart aches, and why waste time on the wrong person?

Yes, it's difficult feeling so lonely right now. But spend this time to appreciate being single!

And if it would provide you any comfort, I'm single as well right now so, we're in the same boat heheh! (☞ ͡° ͜ʖ ͡°)☞

Just know that as unlikely as it may seem sometimes, there are people who care for you. There are people who love you. I may not know who you are, but if I could talk to you, I'd want to hug you and tell you I love you.

^( this picture is from the webtoon Meow Man. Please read it, it's hilarious and it's so good, I need to spread the word.)