- Groom leads bride in 2 rakat nafl salah, making intention of gratitude and need.
- Make dua for blessed marriage, to make your married life pleasing to Allah and a source of drawing closer to Him and seek refuge from any evil and displeasing acts.
- The groom should then put his hand on the front of his bride's head and recite a dua.
(The dua is mentioned above in arabic)
Allahumma inni as'aluka khairaha wa khaira ma jabaltaha alayhi - wa a'uthu bika min sharriha wa sharri ma jabaltaha alayhi.
"O Allah, I ask You for her goodness and the goodness which You have created in her, and I seek refuge with You from her evil and the evil which You have created in her."
[Abu Dawud]
• Chit-chat
- Initiate light-hearted discussion.
- It is recommended that you first engage yourself in some religious talk such as discussing the aim and objectives of marriage in islam and intention to better yourselves together.
- Praise each other, making one another feel comfortable.
- Display love, affection and warmth with each other.
• Intimacy
- If you wish to consummate the marriage, it must be a mutual decision. No pressuring.
- The groom should be gentle, considerate, and patient, recognizing the shyness of his bride.
- Physical intimacy begins with foreplay. Foreplay is a sunnah.
- The husband must ensure that his bride is aroused before consummation.
Before consummation recite this dua:
(The dua is mentioned above in Arabic.)
Bismil-lahi Allahumma jannibna'sh-shaytan, wa jannib-ash-shaytana ma razaqtana.
"In the name of Allah, O Allah, protect us from shaytan and protect whatever you give us from shaytan."
- If the wife is in pain, the husband should stop and comfort her. Do not pressurize her to continue.
- Not every virgin bride will bleed. If she does, stop and comfort her. Her health is your #1 priority.
• If there is penetration both husband and wife will need to do ghusl.
The three fard act of ghusl are:
1. Clean out the mouth.
2. Clean the nostrils well.
3. Wash entire body once.
• The morning after.
- Pray tahajjud before you sleep, or make firm intention to wake each other up for tahajjud.
- If you miss tahajjud, wake each other up for fajr. This is getting your first morning together off to the perfect start. A couple who do this have fulfilled a wish of our beloved prophet Muhammad pbuh.
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Share this with your partner on the night of your wedding.
Share it with the people you know.
In shaa Allah this will help. :)
If you have any questions regarding any topic then please let me know in comment section. I will try my best to answer with the authentication. In shaa Allah.
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SpiritualI would write about some islamic topics related to women...which most of the people are not aware of...their are things that we dont know...so this will be helpful to many people including me... In shaa Allah...:) Rank #71 in spiritual 13/11/2016
